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  • Skullgrid@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•What we needed.
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    14 hours ago

    Or you could avoid gendered expressions to begin with.

    If you want people to use genderless expressions when they are feeling exasperated by your behaviour, at least provide them with equal quality words.

    I’m frustrated with what you’re saying, and I want to say “pay attention man”. the non-gendered variations would be “pay attention fucker” and because we’ve had less than stellar interactions before, I am trying to be polite.


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    16 hours ago

    I didn’t ignore your comment and communicating with others about how they want to be cared for is important

    I interpreted your comment as the opposite.

    You don’t need to call me “gal” here.

    I wanted to use a turn of phrase, but had to change the gender. Unfortunately we haven’t had pleasant interactions in the past, but this kind of speech is casual and expressive. I think you would prefer me talking to you with the phrase “come on gal” instead of “come on man”, which is what I’d use for someone who is male/non-gendered, as it’s an exasperated statement.

    I’m not your buddy.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1JakODvYhA (yes I need a better clip, IRL gets in the away)


  • Skullgrid@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•What we needed.
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    17 hours ago

    This doesn’t just apply to disabled people though. Before you stick your hand in, it’s a good idea to ask the person “do you want help with that”. Sometimes too many cooks spoil the broth, and you don’t want to hinder someone when you’re trying to be helpful.

    come on gal. please read. the idea is the lesson learned is a transferable social skill.


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    17 hours ago

    You can really piss someone off by trying to be considerate and take care of them, too?

    I’ve had limited exposure to disabled people. One of the things “they” teach you about disabled people is not to assume they need help for this that or the other. Ask them if they need it.

    This doesn’t just apply to disabled people though. Before you stick your hand in, it’s a good idea to ask the person “do you want help with that”. Sometimes too many cooks spoil the broth, and you don’t want to hinder someone when you’re trying to be helpful.

    Also with kids, it’s the other way around. Make them do things and help them as little as possible so they learn, grow and adapt.






  • Skullgrid@lemmy.worldtoNiceMemes@sopuli.xyz•Can't question it
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    23 hours ago

    I’ve been making this joke for a while. When you have one or two kids, you can pay them individual attention. When it gets to 3 or more, you are just herding them, it’s no longer “Johnny and Timmy” but “Kids, come on, let’s go”.

    That’s why big families get dogs, to help herd the herd.


  • Sure, but what’s the price? Too low and it’s not worth the bother, too high and the person that’s trying to get a little extra mileage can’t afford it. I don’t know when I can run classes since I’m taking care of my kid or looking for work and battling mental health stuff.

    Also, I’m hardly Mr Torvalds, I can barely get my machine to work properly.