I don’t have any issue talking to girls when the intent is not romantic/sexual. OK I have met someone, first few conversations went alright, how do I transition to something else without being embarrassed and feeling like a dick? Like, if I want to say something technical or communicate for something else, everything is fine. Otherwise, I feel very embarrassed and feel like I will be disgusting to her if I said something… I guess it is me trying to be OK with everyone and not have more people hate me… I don’t know if I can take any more people hating me… makes me feel worthless…

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    Always remember: If you say something to someone which “alarms or disturbs” them, you can be arrested for disorderly conduct.

    Edit: Even if you do no such thing, all they have to do is lie.

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      Great advice for someone already scared of talking to women… Why not give them an irrational fear of miscommunication as well huh

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          Women for the most part aren’t insane demons trying to ruin your life, if you talk and act like a normal and respectful person chances are you won’t get wrongfully accused, wtf…

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            Women for the most part aren’t insane demons …

            I agree. But how can you tell? When there’s a risk of arrest and criminal charges, it’s better to just steer clear.

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              That is equivalent to not driving a car because people occasionally have accidents in them. Probably not even a proper analogy because having a car accident is a lot more likely than a woman conjuring up false accusations against you out of nowhere.

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      Why don’t you outright say what you’re implying when you imply that all women are liars who will accuse you of rape?

      Get your misogyny out of here. You’re not helping anyone.

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        I said exactly what I meant, nothing more, nothing less. Whatever you’re reading into that is on you.

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          You meant more. People are reading the words you wrote. In another comment you wrote “it’s better to just steer clear.”

          That’s not helpful for OP at all. That’s just the mgtow mantra.

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            I refer you to the comment you replied to:

            I said exactly what I meant, nothing more, nothing less. Whatever you’re reading into that is on you.