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Many of our cities in north america don’t have good access to third places anymore, due to both availability and cost.
I refuse to use online dating/friendship services so I struggle to meet friends and partners in the new citiy I moved to. Everyone at the local bar scenes is 15-30 years older than me, my outdoor local areas are homeless emcampments or riddled with needles and litter. I’ve met some people at my local climbing gym, but I find it difficult to get there between the cost of climbing and my physical labour job.
It almost feels like if you don’t make the plans online you don’t get to meet/hang out with people anymore and I’m not a huge fan of that.
Online dating is so shit for the majority of hetero dudes. You’re lucky if you match with somebody, luckier if you get to have some kind of discussion that doesn’t end after a few messages, even luckier if it ends in a date, amazingly lucky if anything physical happens, and incredibly lucky if it turns into a relationship.
Men are expected to initiate, keep the discussion alive, ask out, keep the woman entertained, and be grateful they were chosen. It only gets worse online.
Don’t forget rule #1: be attractive, or rule #2: don’t be unattractive
this power imbalance is bad for everyone as well, if you meet up with someone via these (if are not male presenting), there is a concerningly high chance that you get sexually assaulted, I am terrified how common this seems to be among the women I’ve talked to
To be fair, real-life dating is also shit.
Friends 📉
people have no friends anymore
This belongs in boringdystopia.
Makes sense. People are getting married later so they’re not in school or college anymore, and we have no friends
Congrats, you’re a millennial / gen Z 👍
That’s interesting. I wonder whether those 6519 surveyed are representative of whole population, or of people who anyway online a lot. It’s seems there was an inflection around 2012 - what happened then ? The curve ends during covid lockdowns, wonder whether deflected since ?
There was an almost overnight shift from “ewww, online people are weird strangers” to “the Internet is just digital real life”. For years it was the first, and then as mainstream popularity hit, it was like a switch flipped and suddenly the Internet was “cool” and just like comics and superheros, everyone acted like they were a fan all along.
It was kinda jarring tbh. All the things that got you labeled a nerd and a geek(negatively) were suddenly good things. I think it mostly had to do with the tech surge and people seeing it as a valuable thing now.
What is the definition of “online” for this chart? The first website wasn’t even up until 1991, so how can the line start at 1980?
DoD nerds be fuckin’.
In my experience, the deeper and more academic you get in the nerd forest, the freakier people get.
