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    1 year ago

    Bruh. This is a bad housemate. If your housemate is depressed for four months and you are this close with them, fucking talk to them earlier.

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        1 year ago

        The surprised tone, sharing this indicates that there hadn’t already been a conversation about the silence in the house. They could have talked about it every day of those four months, but it doesn’t read like that to me

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                Yeah, it’s the tweeter’s surprised tone that I find relevant, not the roommates. The tweeter knows she’s depressed, the roommate knows it, but (I suspect) if the roommate had inquired about mental health due to lack of singing, the tweeter would not have been so surprised that her roommate was relieved she was singing.

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                  They just wanted to know why they said “thank goodness” lol. It doesn’t speak for itself

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                    1 year ago

                    Well yeah, but if there’d already been conversations about it, it would be less surprising that the roommate was excited to see a sign it was gone

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      Nothing about this indicates that the housemate didn’t talk to them. They very well could have been part of why they’re singing again!

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      Depression is a little more complicated than that, which I’m sure you know, but I think that is a necessary consideration.

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        Absolutely, but checking in is a must. It won’t fix it, but show people you care about them when they’re in the shit, not when they pull themselves out of it

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          What I’m saying is that they probably did talk. It could be inferred by the nature of their relationship that the housemate pays so much attention to their well-being. Nothing says or implies conversations didn’t happen around depression. But as you said, talking about depression isn’t a cure. It is complicated.