November may come down to a battle between controlling men and women who just want their freedom

  • Pennomi@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    Yes, and not everyone can safely escape such a relationship. Your response comes off as dismissive (I assume unintentionally), but we need to raise awareness and provide support for the shockingly high number of people trapped in relationships like this.

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        3 months ago

        There was no vitriol in my response, we are cool here. ✌️

        I was just saying that while “get out of the relationship” IS generally good advice for someone wanting to know if their husband can see their vote, it is often so difficult as to be impractical for the short term. I have a lot of experience with people trapped in abusive relationships like this (I grew up in a wildly fundamentalist religious environment) so I try to raise awareness about that.

        To actually answer the question, votes are secret. A woman can vote her conscience safely no matter what her husband tells her to do.

        • AtomicTacoSauce@lemmy.world
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          3 months ago

          My apologies. It’s that “you can’t tell the true meaning in text” thing.

          But I completely agree. Spousal abuse is rampant and saddening. I, as the husband, left my first marriage because of it. My mother experienced it with my step father. It’s a social disease and one with no clear resolve. :(