Been in a relationship for a year, since early in the relationship my partner has been suffering with chronic back pain. This pain is almost always present, this causes breakdowns multiple times a week, especially on weekends.
I’ve been having a hard time helping her manage her pain and being there for her, it reoccures so much that I’m starting to feel myself becoming apathetic towards her, and sometimes outright cold.
I haven’t really been getting a chance to rest from being emotionally available, or even socially available (even though life circumstance already caused me to basically halt all social life). And i haven’t really had a weekend this past months that i could use to rest instead of being on call and hearing her cry most of the day.
I feel like I’m pouring from an empty cup and that I don’t have any other choice, otherwise I’d be leaving her to deal with it herself.
It feels like it’s going to be the end of our relationship, any advice?
p.s. we’re a man-woman relationship, young adults, both of us not really experienced in relationships, if that’s any help.
Stretching can make a world of difference with a lot of pain issues.
She already does that, usually when she’s at her place, i worry she does some incorrectly as she has been reporting pain in her bones shortly after stretching
That is usually a sign of overstretching. Maybe look up some stretching videos you can follow along with together. There are all sorts of partner stretching videos on YouTube.
I had that idea, i think now that i have a bit of time on my hands I’ll compile a list of stretches and compile detailed videos or links if i find any, and maybe will see to it that she does them correctly.