For a decade, apps have dominated dating. But now singles are growing tired of swiping and are looking for new ways to meet people – or reverting to old ones

‘It’s quite soul-destroying’: how we fell out of love with dating apps::For a decade, apps have dominated dating. But now singles are growing tired of swiping and are looking for new ways to meet people – or reverting to old ones

  • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
    154·
    1 year ago

    It used to be socially acceptable to ask a stranger for their phone number. Some would agree, some wouldn’t and I’d thank them for their time.

    I tried this in 2019 at a restaurant and got a look like, “wtf is wrong with you?”

    I did well on dating apps when the format was like email because I could showcase my personality, which doesn’t come through easily in a text message format (never been good at small talk with strangers; writing letter let me really express myself). Luckily, I’ve found my partner, though I was worried it’d never happen.

    Modern dating apps also suck for dating if you have average looks.

    • Clbull@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5·
      1 year ago

      I once went on a (second) Tinder date in Wolverhampton.

      Some random stranger genuinely approached my date’s uni friend and asked her for her Snapchat. She gave it to him.

      Less than 15 mins later when we’re in the supermarket, she gets an unsolicited dick pic from him.

      • LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        1 year ago

        Nudes were what snapchat was made for. That was one of the only reasons anyone I knew got it back when it came out. Half those users were under 18. I’m sure it has changed a lot but likely leaves a imprint that holds over time.

    • P03 Locke@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      51·
      1 year ago

      It used to be socially acceptable to ask a stranger for their phone number. Some would agree, some wouldn’t and I’d thank them for their time.

      I tried this in 2019 at a restaurant and got a look like, “wtf is wrong with you?”

      Maybe at a bar, but I’ve never heard of that in a restaurant. It also depends on the context, too.

    • Iteria@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      21·
      1 year ago

      That’s because someone can easily track your address via a phone number. This is why I have a burner VoIP number to give out until I trust people.