• Tylerdurdon@lemmy.world
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      As they should if you’re going to be a parent that’s worth a damn. You sir, seem to be worth a damn.

      • Organichedgehog@lemmy.world
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        Thanks bud. Been a hard fuckin year and we were lucky enough to have a happy baby that sleeps like the dead. She turns one in 10 days. Damn.

      • doctorcrimson@lemmy.today
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        I never understand why we congratulate people for procreating. There are about 8 billion people and they all have the animal desire to make more people, big whoop mate. Have they made any other notable contributions?

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          They aren’t being congratulated for procreating. They are being congratulated for having the right mentality around procreating (in that it is a sacrifice that requires at the least consideration prior and commitment after in order to make a good human to carry on the species).

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              …uh, there’s no reason why it wouldn’t be both. They aren’t mutually exclusive (in fact, they’re often mutually inclusive).

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                Sacrifice is when you give something up for the greater good.

                Responsibility is when you suffer the consequences of your actions.

                • Organichedgehog@lemmy.world
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                  Lol according to your very narrow definitions, sure. According the actual definitions, you’re being aggressively pedantic

    • RedstoneValley@sh.itjust.works
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      You’ll be in for a surprise when the kids have grown up and are leaving to live their own lives. Happens faster than you might think and after that you might end up having neither kids nor friends.

      Just a friendly hint from an old fart who has been through all that

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        Except those kids now will get to discover the wonder of $10,000/mo rent for a sleep pod, $200/gal gas, 150°F summer and probably a wildfire too, as well as food that starts at $100 for a hotdog, at this given rate.

        Yes. Wonderful. Good job, y’all.

    • CancerMancer@sh.itjust.works
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      I told myself I would stay in touch with my friends no matter what. I lost exactly one after kids: my childhood best friend. Turns out he couldn’t handle being second to my wife (another childhood friend) and my kids. It was a pretty close second, and I even told him he’s the brother I never had and let him stay with us rent free for a bit.

      He didn’t like that I couldn’t just run off on any of his spontaneous plans and just left our home and even our friend group entirely.

      All my other friends understand and we put together a Discord community and some game servers for when we can’t get together. I really appreciate my guys, and now that my kids have a few years on them I have a bit more freedom. My wife is great about helping me spend time with them.

    • UNWILLING_PARTICIPANT@sh.itjust.works
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      Caretaker gene: activated. One vessel decays. The next takes its place.

      But you do get some really deep, like primal, relationships out of it. So there are worse trades.

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      You’ll be in for a surprise when the kids have grown up and are leaving to live their own lives. Happens faster than you might think and after that you might end up having neither kids nor friends.

      Just a friendly hint from an old fart who has been through all that