I agree with the sentiment but it is easier said than done - splitting finances, houses, assets, debts etc is a mahoosive pain in the arse, and may well be perceived as less of an evil than actually putting up with the daily shit.
Ultimately though I do agree, it doesn’t change without some fundamental movement - either recover what relationship you have with the wife, or start planning a 12 month strat to get your shit in order and pivot to a more single lifestyle for a while.
Good luck bro/broette. You got this, and we’re happy that you’re here.
Maybe try therapy? Would you she be up for that and would you? Just thinking out loud. There is usually a reason people are indifferent and distant, and if you guys had a setting you could analyze and talk about it, maybe that would be good?
I agree with the sentiment but it is easier said than done - splitting finances, houses, assets, debts etc is a mahoosive pain in the arse, and may well be perceived as less of an evil than actually putting up with the daily shit.
Ultimately though I do agree, it doesn’t change without some fundamental movement - either recover what relationship you have with the wife, or start planning a 12 month strat to get your shit in order and pivot to a more single lifestyle for a while.
Good luck bro/broette. You got this, and we’re happy that you’re here.
Better to spend a year prepping and live happier than spending a lifetime being miserable.
Just choose a hobby and do that once or twice a week as your time. If she has any issues tell her to fuck off.
She’s not mean, she’s just indifferent and distant. An emotional wet blanket
What I’m saying its okay for you to do your own things.
You don’t need to be around her 24/7 and something that will make you happy and recharged could be good for you both.
It’s like the oxygen mask. You got to put yours on first before helping others
Maybe try therapy? Would you she be up for that and would you? Just thinking out loud. There is usually a reason people are indifferent and distant, and if you guys had a setting you could analyze and talk about it, maybe that would be good?
On the spectrum? Or the dark triad spectrum? Inb4 you tell me she’s a surgeon or one of those insurance mathematicians.