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Cake day: June 18th, 2023

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  • I’ll copy my response to the other person who was also confused by the reference:

    In America, there’s a very popular car windshield decal sticker that people put on that says “Salt Life.” It specifically just means someone visited a popular beach vacation spot called Myrtle Beach, SC. The people who put it on tend to being almost exclusively sporty douchebags and suburban moms.

    That’s about it.

    Edit: changed NC to SC















  • You say that you’ve forgiven her, and that’s fine, but it still sounds like you don’t trust her in the slightest. Relationships are built on a foundation of trust and frankly I don’t think you see how severe of an issue your distrust is at its core. You cannot have a functional and true relationship with a human being without trust.

    There are an infinite number of possibilities for why this power strip you’re harping on was there, yet you immediately go straight to cheating. Humans are fallible and memory is fickle and unreliable.

    You’re here because you want someone to tell you she’s cheating. You’ve made three separate posts and nobody has given you the answer you so desperately want to hear. This behavior is not venting, this is looking for an excuse.


  • I’m just going to copy my response from your other thread since this is the exact same post, just with some cleaning for legibility.

    It sounds like you’re deeply suspicious(and possibly under the influence if I’m honest) and your partner and you have deeper issues at play. Being cheated on has a tendency to do that, although it sounds like she’s put forth the effort to show she’s dedicated.

    If you have trust and communication issues you need to either pursue counseling, ideally individually and together, or openly and candidly determine if the relationship is still something that works for the both of you. Noone on the internet is going to be able to accurately speculate or give you the answers you seek.

    On a personal note, it sounds like you’re having a tough time with life in general at the moment and I wish you the best. Take care of yourself first and don’t let your emotions cloud your judgement.

    Since you keep pressing this issue, I’m just going to be up front and honest with you. This doesn’t sound like she’s cheating in any way, but the reality is that if you keep looking for an excuse to say she is for the rest of your life then you’re always going to find one.

    It might be time to take a hard look in the mirror to determine if her past transgression are something that you’re capable of moving past because at the end of the day that’s what this is truly about. I’ve been cheated on in a similar fashion and yes it will always hurt on some level, but if you can’t grow, forgive, and move past it together then you have no hope for a future anyway and your distrust will permeate the entire relationship.

    -Signed someone who is still happily in a relationship with someone 14 years later.