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  • Katana314@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•Dating advice
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    5 hours ago

    That’s not really what I meant; just that passed-down wisdom often leads women to caution each other it’s a common (albeit undeserved) consequence.

    I wrote “Not anticipating his objectification” rather than “Not looking” because it’s often difficult to specifically make sure someone is fully outside your field of vision the moment they reach for something on the ground.



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    8 hours ago

    I’ve felt the same way about women bending over.

    Obviously, peering at someone’s ass can lean towards creepy or voyeuristic. Any woman knows this - many changed over to squatting to pick things up even when alone. So, if she’s okay with a full bend, even if the guy barely even looks, it’s a separate “trust kink” - that she knows he’s there and doesn’t anticipate his mind objectifying her that way.


  • It could be an “empowerment” issue.

    Dresses and fancy preparation are empowering. They show that this person manages their life well and is successful. That of course all sounds positive. Only problem is, to someone struggling with that issue, it can be intimidating.

    I struggle to find a good way to express this, but guys like myself since school have grappled with a perception that women “have more social power than them”. Even if the guy isn’t a total loser with a rented home that consists of a TV and a pillow, girls are viewed as a pedestal-standing respected social icon by comparison. That’s definitely not universally actually true, but under young hormones it seems that way.

    Hence why pajamas, glasses, or to extend further: VTuber streamers that joke about failing basic life skills, or not showering that week, are often a successful endeavor. They show someone more humanized, disempowered and flawed. Question is whether a woman is okay with accepting a bit of that debasement to put someone at ease.








  • That’s the fucking horrendous thing about censorship. It gets us to think the horrible thing is the ‘word’.

    We’re not fucking distressed about the fucking “RAY” sound followed by the “APE” sound, we’re distressed to hear that a man involuntarily pushed his dick into a woman - in the year 2026.

    This kind of thing can even distance victims, making it harder for a woman to seek solace by announcing to a limited group online “My name is X, and I was a victim of rape”. Or, in a similar case, a black guy telling a group “You think racism doesn’t exist? A cop pulled me over last week, and I swear I heard him call me a n^^^^r over the radio.” Imagine the level of societal disgust/action that just doesn’t happen because people are taught they can’t talk about these things. They’re distressing? Of course they are!!

    On the last note, I’ll only say that I choose to censor the N word because I’m white, and I don’t like designing “valid scenarios” for racists and trolls to get to say it, which they always want to.






  • A feature pretty close to this is built into Trails in the Sky (remake and original). You can set the default launch option to “Resume latest save”. When you do, hitting play on the game skips all startup logos and the main menu, just giving a quick loading screen then putting you right where you saved.

    It won’t restore you to the middle of combat or a cutscene/conversation, but it makes resuming pretty flexible. It would be nice to see other games give attention to this functionality, or at least start to fight supporting technologies on the subject of launch logos.


  • The only note I think can lead to an outlook like this is the feeling that if someone has never made bad mistakes (eg, developing an addiction, falling in with a bad crowd) they don’t develop an interesting story. I could imagine being a woman and meeting a lukewarm balding guy who says “I’ve responsibly maintained my 401k and am ready to consider children” and just feeling uninspired.

    So people at least need some vein of uniqueness to their existence.