Listens to too much music

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Cake day: November 7th, 2024

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  • I came across it years ago when it was first airing on TV, a friend of mine was super into Zak (imo he’s an overgrown child but to each their own). Got into it because they are so extra, it def works as a comedy. Then later in life had some roomies and we’d watch it while smoking. Hilarious, have quite a few phrases that live in my head rent free from that show














  • it was brushed off the first night when I kept saying let’s talk. That part hit me the most

    This is the part of his behavior that concerns me as it pertains to your emotional wellbeing. It takes understanding and compassion from all partners in a relationship, and he is not extending that to you. It is those moments that I reflect on in my past relationships that I wish I had seen for what they were so much sooner. I did the same thing you are doing, focusing on the parts of my partner that were positive and using those to excuse the negative, which is what kept me locked in a difficult, dark place for years. Because real talk, even though I know now that the men I dated weren’t right for me, it’s not like they were 100% bad people. I still don’t think that. They were damaged young people in their 20s that hadn’t fully processed the trauma in their life and had, unbeknownst to even them, developed unhealthy behaviors and coping mechanisms that I was then stuck dealing with on the daily. And I thought, “If I just support them enough and be patient enough, they will pull through and our relationship will experience a bloom and depth that will make all the strife worth it.” That never happened, and I don’t think it ever would have happened. As long as I tolerated the dark times, they never had to push through their problems. You deserve someone who loves just as fiercely as you do, don’t accept half measures.

    I’m so drained. I’m tired.

    I have 100% been where you are right now. I will acknowledge that I don’t know your situation intimately and that it is your life and your call on whether or not you choose to move on. But I can tell you that when I was finally tired enough to break away, that was the beginning of a fresh new chapter for me ❤️

    Take some time for yourself today. Make a nice cup of tea (or whatever is your preferred warm and cozy type of drink), listen to your favorite album (I take much solace in music, and if you need a recommend I am high-key obsessed with Pale Jay’s album Low End Love Songs), and try to remind yourself of how wonderful you are 💖