¯_(ツ)_/¯ I can’t really speak to that. I volunteer with local mutual aid orgs because it more directly and sustainably impacts the local community.

Volunteer work is an amazing way to break cycles of isolation and loneliness. You have a shared common goal with other volunteers and you are making a collective effort to improve the lives of those less fortunate than you. Even if you walk away without having met the love of your life or whatever, at least you can feel good knowing that you helped make the world a better place and got to meet some cool, likeminded people.

Anything notable in the emails?

How is it punching down to make fun of someone for eating bland food?

Many people who eat like this are closed minded to trying foods from other cultures because they use flavors and spices that add richness to the food that they perceive as “unsafe”. This often extrapolates out to a weird form of xenophobia.

It’s not punching down to make fun of xenophobes….

Unfortunately those of us that would be protesting are currently preoccupied with trying to defend our communities and loved ones from ICE kidnappings.

“There are two things I know about white people. They love Rachael Ray. And they are terrified of curses.”

LOL! well done

She told me that her favorite comedian was Jeff Dunham and that she didn’t like reading.

Gotten top surgery. I knew my quality of life was going to improve by virtue of not having boobs that gave me dysphoria, but I thought I would have to wait until I was fully healed to feel it. My mood and outlook changed pretty much day after my surgery. It feels great :)

Pretty funny coincidence here

Pretty funny coincidence here

We’re joking around lmao

Cool picture! Has anyone noticed that all Rorschach tests also look a hot woman walking a man on a leash? What a weird coincidence!

Please not again

I take it you’re not queer or trans hahaha. I’ll explain :)

You know how a lot of queer people classify themselves as tops, bottoms, sides, and verses depending on which position they prefer when they’re having sex? Well within those four classifications, there are countless sub-classifications.

One subclassification in the “top” classification is “service top”. A service top is a top who prioritizes “servicing”, or pleasuring their sexual partners instead of prioritizing their own sexual gratification when they have sex.

So basically I was making a joke about myself and my own sexual classification. Because I am someone who priorizes the enjoyment of the other person in bed, it extends to me prioritizing the enjoyment of others in my waking life and accordingly informs how I would pick a restaurant on the first date.

If I was hanging out with a bunch of queer and trans people, they would get the joke. But I realize that a random stranger on the internet probably wouldn’t get it. Sorry about that. Hope you learned something new, though!

I’m a service top when it comes to restaurants (and also generally, but that’s besides the point). Typically when I am planning a first date with someone, I first ask if they have any dietary needs, and then I ask if there is any food they have been craving lately or if there are any restaurants in the area that they have been meaning to try.

If they say they are craving a specific type of food, I am pretty well enough acquainted with the different types of restaurants in my area that I can choose accordingly. I typically will choose the restaurant that serves the “best” food they have been craving. I love to bond over good food and I love showing people new things that they will enjoy (another facet of being a service top), so at the very least we will be able to talk about how good the food is and they have a new dinner spot they can take their friends.

If they choose a restaurant they’ve been meaning to try, it makes for a good dinner conversation and I potentially get to have a new spot on my restaurant list.

If they don’t have a preference, then I just choose a spot that I’ve been meaning to try that’s halfway between where we both live so it’s convenient for the both of us. If there isn’t anything I want to try in the area, I will just go for something like a sit down pizza spot.

Also, once I’ve picked a spot, I normally look in the area and pick a potential second location for us to go to if the date is going well and we still want to hang out after dinner. Typically I look for a dive bar because they’re fun, cheap, and easy to talk in.

I’ve heard good things about Bumble BFF

“Local leftist decides that gay people shouldn’t have human rights because gay human rights don’t comport with the social progress related to non-western societies” is my favorite example of horseshoe theory in action. Please never break containment.

It’s me. I’m the little creature.

And is it social progress to you for a society to allow gay people to have civil rights?