Aside from the advice asked and answered in this thread, I’d encourage you to make phone calls when the information is time sensitive, such as being short on time and needing to communicate that overtime will happen and know if the assignment is still approved.
This way you’ll get a response immediately and wont have to sit around for confirmation or start tasks you wont have time to finish or wait for unreliable tech to work to get communication through.
I bought myself a new name on impulse.
I had been joking about considering taking that name on and off for years, but didn’t expect the name change approval papers to show up a couple of weeks after a bender.
Turns out joking about stuff for a long time can just rewire your brain, and I’m actually really happy with my new name.
I haven’t read the book, but I think there is a big difference between a flawed character and a flawed message.
Like: Is it just that the flawed character is saying that other girls are shallow and leeches onto popular boys without having anything to offer, or is the book/story/author agreeing and implying it with how the other female characters act when not observed through that character or by never having that flawed presumption challenged?
A character having internalised misogyny and mood swings can be them clearly being torn between their fear of abandonment and their love or attraction because they are a flawed character written very well, or it can be lazy writing with no clear character understanding or reason for their erratic changes, depending on how its done.
Some of my favourite pieces of media is with characters I would absolutely hate in real life, or who are deeply flawed but understandable and/or not rewarded for it.
Attraction is not love, not enough for a relationship.
She can tell that you don’t care about her enough, but since youre in a relationship you say that you do… so she must be really confused and suffering because she either denies the validity of your relationship or denies what she knows is true about your lack of care for her. Should she trust you or her own senses, you know…
Surely you can see how mean it is to put someone through that? To trap her in a relationship where you don’t want to be her actual partner and love all of her?
I would like to know how much time you actually spend with your girlfriend, because from what I see here… yeah. You’re not being a good partner.
She tells you she want to be more of a priority and get more time and attention from you, and your solution is to tell her she can get time with you when your actual priority (Max) is busy. That’s exactly the issue - you choose Max over her when there is a choice, and only choose her when there are no “better” opinions because Max is busy.
Not to mention choosing TV over your girlfriend.
Based on this, you need to think about whether you actually have time and space in your life for your girlfriend and if you are willing to prioritise being a good partner. Maybe you are happy with your life as it is and don’t actually want to change it to incorporate a romantic partner. That’s absolutely fine, but be honest about it and don’t try to have your cake and eat it too. Relationship takes time and work, no one can keep their life and routines as is and add a partner without making changes to incorporate the relationship. Do you like her enough to choose her and be her partner, not as a label but as a way of life?
Asking ones parter to be part of their life and be more of a priority is not “drama”, saying that sounds really dismissive and that is quite often used to keep women quiet and shamed, so be mindful of how you perceive your own girlfriend. No one is immune to internalising sexism regardless of gender.
Of course there is the possibility that you already call her an hour every day and she’s being unreasonable in you wanting ten min to talk to your friend (with the four hour chat being the only time you talked longer than that), if so disregard the above.
Learn an instrument, or join a choir, or learn some craft like knitting or crocheting (find a craft circle/club for the social aspect and to have someone to learn from).
Something practical and physical. You’ll still be learning and using your brain, but very different pathways from academia.
You replied to only one of my points, and that’s not even what I said…
They train new models on base models, and I’m talking about how they scraped the internet without permission or how websites sold their users data without compensation and how no one was ever given any opportunity to opt out of sharing your work and your words to train these base models on.
Without that grand scale theft we would have no base models anywhere near what we have now.
I’m not opposed to willingly sharing, I’m opposed to profiting from stealing.
I noticed how quickly my own skills started deteriorating when trying to work with it. I’m trying to build my skills, not outsource them.
I also don’t love the environmental impact, nor the immorality of how they got/get their training sets for the base models.
If my work tried to force me to use it, I would be looking to change employer. Or lie and say I use it. But our AI use is heavily regulated and generally disencouraged, so luckily no issues there.
Of course.
My reasons for not using AI are the same as they were four months ago and will be the same in four months, regardless of what the models can or can’t do.
Ask again in four years.
Some cats are like this. I’d like to add a speech bubble to the last frame: “You may be leaking but I still trust you fully, I know you’re safe and reliable. You always have my back, see?”
Probably whoever is in gravest danger or, if the danger is percieved as equal, who physically closest to them at the time.
If one of you are able to save themselves they would save the other. If neither could save themselves they wouldn’t run past one of you to look for the other but get the first one they see out first.
I don’t think trying to figure out favourites like this is worth thinking about, past the sbive point. If you dwell on thoughts like this beyond a slight curiosity it might just be your mind trying to come up with different ways to hurt you and make you suffer emotionally. Don’t let it.
If it works in your fantasy then go for it, as long as you’re able to separate fantasy from reality.
Once you’re ready to experience sex with another person, be prepared for the taste, smell and sensation of living human skin to be very different from the taste and smell of dead and burnt/cooked/charred, or even raw, meat regardless of if the animal of origin.
So just dont train yourself too hard to be turned on by dead meat to the point that living people wwont do it for you, because its not going to be the same.
Ps. There are a lot of things you can do with another person that doesnt have to wait until marriage, where you can still experience the sensation of another, if you want to.
Yes, more when going to bed than waking up though.
Let me introduce you to “I’m The Villain In My Own Story”: https://youtu.be/UhzN7SfnNeY
From the excellent (though sometimes emotionally heavy) show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. It’s certainly not the best song in the show, but the most relevant.
And in the artery to that vein, let me present “I’m A Good Person”: https://youtu.be/O4hh1YhDfbA
(Edited to clarify these are not the best songs in the show, there are better songs and in a wide variety of genres!)
Filming it is the right call. This way there can be no doubt as to what happened if someone is looking for the burger later, and they can get it comped by the restaurant without issue should they want another.
And with the whole table empty of people they had either already finished most of their meal/weren’t that hungry, or it’s a fake video.
Fight club comes to mind
So does Bridget Jones Diary.
I’m not saying whether its more stereotypically male or not in movies (I’ve never thought about it, maybe its that there have historically been more male leads in general?), I just like bringing up the classic naugthies rom-coms whenever I can.
Protective gloves representing a lot of blue collars like industrial, mechanical, medical, and maintenance, cleaning.
Keyboard or headset (I considered outlook calendar or zoom symbols, but dont think a specific company should be immortalised here) for a lot of white collars.
To be the artery to your vein:
It’s better the ask and sound ignorant, than say nothing and remain so.
It’s only as awkward as you and the other person makes it, and you sound like you made it pretty awkward for yourself before even giving the other person a chance to be non-awkward about it.
The way I see it: If it’s something the person can fix immediately, like a downed zipper or food in their teeth or visible booger, tell them (discreetly) immediately. If it’s not fixable at the time, don’t draw attention to it.
And I dont know how “oh, you seem to have a zipper malfunction” could ever be seen as trying to hit on someone, so you’d likely have been fine if you hadn’t blown it out of proportion.
Additionally: if you start waffling about and overexplaing, youll make it awkward for yhe other person, if you just mention it casually like you’d mention the weather they won’t feel like its a big deal for you to have seen it. I would appreciate it at least, rather than notice by myself and wonder how many people have seen my underwear or visible booger during the day.
Carrots will not grant you the ability to see in the dark, but have many other benefits. Remember to stock up on carrots when able.
Usually the host pays. If it’s at a sit-down restaurant with a menu (where different food have different prices and people can order sides ans dessertand drinks and stuff) everyone pays for themselves… but surely you’re not having a kids birthday party at a sit-down restaurant? It’s a place that specialises in servicing children and hosting child parties, where you can order a buffet for everyone/the kids, right?
But as long as you communicate expectations clearly on the invite you can do as you like. For example: “There will be buffet style food served for the kids to eat. Accompanying adults can buy food at a café next to the playground.” Or “Entry to the jump yard is X:- per child. Since each family pays for themselves we don’t expect birthday gifts” (make sure your child knows this).
Parties can be made pretty cheap, so I would prefer a type of party that fits your budget rather than create an expensive party where some kids might not affort to join the celebrations. It’s not the location or fancy foods or special activities/entertainment, it’s the people and (for many kids) the theme, that makes it special.