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ok gotcha thanks for clarifying lmaooo i felt so judged fr

i guess i assumed i was talking about people who are normal about porn. but i mean, idk, i think knowing a few actors you like isn’t like… crazy? there’s probably a certain level where you’re too interested in it, right, but i don’t think that’s exclusive to porn

there’s also a thought like… yeah, i do miss being partnered… but, i also kinda don’t. like, i’m chill with it. part of it is that i have an absolutely bonkers sex drive and i’m probably better off regulating it on my own than with a partner and the baggage that comes with. and i don’t think i want my sexuality to be something that exclusively belongs with another person, i like having it for myself sometimes. i like that it’s sometimes not about intimacy

don’t get me wrong, really good intimate sex is incredible. it’s great. would love to have it again

i just don’t miss it that much, at least not more than i suffer from a general touch deprivation. i miss it the same way i miss staring deeply into someone’s eyes and holding their hand and kissing them. but i think you get that re: rather have a long makeout session nowadays (even if it still ends in sex)

i like the intimacy, but i also like that primal place where you’re just fucking. and honestly i guess it’s pretty hard for me to get to that place with another person nowadays, i don’t really trust people to be really sensitive to their needs and willing to speak up for them… LMAO ofc due to past experience

but it’s fine, i’m more or less content engaging in it with myself

and the porn helps with that, it’s fun and i agree, i don’t think i can ever know if it was made consentually, i can at least try to do some research and support things where people do interviews and seem genuine and whatnot

idk how good of a job i did like… engaging with your comment as opposed to just kind of rambling about my own shit. but i liked your post and i hope you like mine

some of my friends are open to it but it’s pretty sterile and devoid of details… so i wanna engage on a deeper level. although i don’t really know what that means! and i don’t want to come off creepy/weird/porn obsessed like i apparently did to another commenter LMAO 😭

sourcing good ethical porn might be a good topic of conversation tho, i’ll try that. thanks for the rec, too

can you explain the part of my post that made you think i’m the kind of person who brings up porn in the average scenario… bc i’m not LMAO that’s why i made the post, no one talks about sexuality and such… i spend a few hours a day playing games and i like talking with people about it… i can spend up to a few hours a day jerking off or w/e… i don’t think it’s so awful to want to connect with other people about it. but obviously i don’t just dump this on people randomly??

but that’s also why i made this post in the goddamn porn lemmy 😭😭😭

well i mean yeah. but unionizing would be the thing to do about it. it’s just hard because people are scared for their job and scared to be out of a job right now, so they don’t want to take the risk. even though it’s fairly obvious that it’s a bigger risk not to…

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Shulman adds: “They’re getting away with it because everybody is doing it. And they’re getting away with it because now it’s the new normal,” he said. “Workers are more comfortable with it, stock investors are appreciating it, and so I think we’ll see it continue for some time.”

ughh this makes my blood boil

yeah workers are “OK” with it, yeah, no, they’re too fucking terrified they’re next to do anything about it

hate this guy

yeah it’s kind of difficult to feel good about it when it’s coming on the back of him / congress enabling literal genocide on the other side of the planet, thanks