I’ve been blasting through Broken Earth series by N. K. Jemisin, already on The Stone Sky. So good and captivating. Also reading ‘The Yiddish Policeman’s Union’ by Michael Chabon

The sequel even won the Hugo, so yea, I can’t wait to read it.

I greatly benefit from being hard of hearing and a wife that understands that we don’t both have to suffer. For both of our kids, she’s let me sleep without my hearing aids (and thus, not waking up with every little sound). As they get older, I’m solely responsible for them at night (she wakes me, and I go take care of them), but I still benefit from true silence at night, and only woken when it’s important.

The other, unspoken, part of my question is the fact that our lives are busy AF, and our time is absurdly limited. My free time ends up being chores, or doing things that I’ve either neglected or that have piled up in the interim (so many things to do around the house, both fun and not)… it’s so rare to find time to do nothing

That’s the thing, I feel that she deserves it more than I do. She’s had to commit so much more of her body/time towards the kids, especially in those early months (and prior to birth)… so there’s a lot more that she should get before I get anything.

Yea, my wife gets way more solo time than I do!