If people are actively excluding somebody for being themselves, especially in a workplace, that is a problem that needs addressed.
Itās one thing if youāre being yourself and not being respectful at all, such as violating somebodyās space or taking up their time excessively, itās another to silently shun somebody because they perceivably āwent their whole lives being catered toā.
Thatās discrimination. You said it yourself, āBut donāt cry about it when no one else wants to accept that kind of thing.ā
Not accepting is discrimination. You can communicate your needs, such as a need for focus or a reduction in non-work conversation, without being a dick.
Avoiding is another level of discrimination. If you donāt like someone or you are uncomfortable talking to someone, then say so instead of contributing to the culture of discrimination that they face.
Communicate your needs instead of acting like you donāt owe people basic respect because they were perceivably catered toā¦ because they are different.
You can very briefly and politely say to them that you donāt wish for small talk, or you can tell someone who isnāt on your team to not engage you in conversation because you want to focus during work.
Being direct is better than looking away, walking away, and pretending to be busy whenever they come around you. That has the potential for real hurt.
What if everywhere you walked in, everywhere you worked at, you got that sort of reaction from others. Masking or not masking. Whether you are being yourself or being somebody youāre not to please others? Have you ever experienced that?
Can you even imagine how isolating that must feel?
I never said to do any of those things. I said that people who want these things also need to realize, that itās not everyone elses job to be their life-interpreter for them, and cater to their needs.
I have my needs not met all the time in public settings. It sucks, but thatās life. Everyone is doing the same thing.
Iām not sure what experiences you have had where you were ever in a situation where a disabled person came to you looking for in-depth support, but that isnāt the norm.
You can very easily set a boundary with others outside of your team, but realize that not supporting somebody on your team and setting them up to succeed can cause a negative outcome. You donāt need to hold their hand, just explain what they donāt understand or find someone who can.
I have my needs not met all the time in public settings. It sucks, but thatās life. Everyone is doing the same thing.
Everybody should have their needs met and that is an ideal that is worth striving for.
If youāre not called or have it in you to help support disabled people, thereās nothing wrong with that. Itās not discrimination. But I will say that being a good neighbor and a friend to others is something most people notice and respect. Even the smallest acts of kindness towards disabled people can be appreciated more than you know.
You donāt need to spend effort to be kind, depending on your disposition. Thanks for engaging.
If people are actively excluding somebody for being themselves, especially in a workplace, that is a problem that needs addressed.
Itās one thing if youāre being yourself and not being respectful at all, such as violating somebodyās space or taking up their time excessively, itās another to silently shun somebody because they perceivably āwent their whole lives being catered toā.
Thatās discrimination. You said it yourself, āBut donāt cry about it when no one else wants to accept that kind of thing.ā
Not accepting is discrimination. You can communicate your needs, such as a need for focus or a reduction in non-work conversation, without being a dick.
Someone avoiding a person is not discrimination. People are not entitled to other peoplesā time or patience. Thatās what Iām trying to say here.
Avoiding is another level of discrimination. If you donāt like someone or you are uncomfortable talking to someone, then say so instead of contributing to the culture of discrimination that they face.
Communicate your needs instead of acting like you donāt owe people basic respect because they were perceivably catered toā¦ because they are different.
No itās not. Lol.
Not every person deserves an answer for every action around them. Iām sorry, but thatās just not realistic.
You can very briefly and politely say to them that you donāt wish for small talk, or you can tell someone who isnāt on your team to not engage you in conversation because you want to focus during work.
Being direct is better than looking away, walking away, and pretending to be busy whenever they come around you. That has the potential for real hurt.
What if everywhere you walked in, everywhere you worked at, you got that sort of reaction from others. Masking or not masking. Whether you are being yourself or being somebody youāre not to please others? Have you ever experienced that?
Can you even imagine how isolating that must feel?
I never said to do any of those things. I said that people who want these things also need to realize, that itās not everyone elses job to be their life-interpreter for them, and cater to their needs.
I have my needs not met all the time in public settings. It sucks, but thatās life. Everyone is doing the same thing.
Iām not sure what experiences you have had where you were ever in a situation where a disabled person came to you looking for in-depth support, but that isnāt the norm.
You can very easily set a boundary with others outside of your team, but realize that not supporting somebody on your team and setting them up to succeed can cause a negative outcome. You donāt need to hold their hand, just explain what they donāt understand or find someone who can.
Everybody should have their needs met and that is an ideal that is worth striving for.
If youāre not called or have it in you to help support disabled people, thereās nothing wrong with that. Itās not discrimination. But I will say that being a good neighbor and a friend to others is something most people notice and respect. Even the smallest acts of kindness towards disabled people can be appreciated more than you know.
You donāt need to spend effort to be kind, depending on your disposition. Thanks for engaging.