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First thing my parents did when they retired was pick a university degree to take to keep their minds active.
If someone can for fun complete a maths degree at 73, pretty sure itās not too late for whatever you want to do.
Well,I also have to earn some money on the side.
i started over in my late 20s. new degree, new field, in a new city. if anything it was easier than it would have been earlier in my 20s. i knew what i was getting into and was motivated to make it work. it wasnt easy because i chose to study engineering, and i got a bunch of student debt, but i did it and i was able to pay off the debt a couple years ago. it would be even easier now in my mid 30s with an existing career to support me through it. its never too late.
Mood. After dropping out of uni and getting depressed, finally building up the courage to redo it. Itās not a study with super job prospects imo (history), but hey, at least it interests me.
I sadly donāt have the form of assburgers where Iām a math nerd, but oh well
Wow this is insanely relatable. Iām 28 starting my life over, going back to college. Iām quitting the tech industry and hoping to become a lawyer to start suing tech companies instead of working for them.
I started over at 30. New country, new field of study, new everything and although it wasnāt easy (mostly because I didnāt even know the language), it could be done. Now, at 40, Iām learning Japanese just for fun and to keep my mind engaged. If you think someone at 28 is too old, I hate to break it to you, but you are terribly wrong. Youāre too old only when you decide you are too old.
Being retired does allow you for a lot of free time.
The way I try and look at it when Iām starting to go on a downward spiral about the life Iāve wasted, is that I remind myself that the first ~20 years of my life werenāt even my own. I was born, then I was a toddler crapping in my nappy, then I went to school where I had to put on a uniform and listen to bells and teachers all day.
So basically, even though Iām 40, half of that wasnāt even my own life anyway. It was spent playing a role for the sake of others. And considering that I live in a socially conservative shit hole, itās no wonder that I took so long to find myself once I was out of school. Or that it had to come from solitude and not from any awareness or encouragement from peers.
All things considered, it could be worse. I couldāve become an honorary boomer that yells at the kids to get off the lawn, in between scrolling conspiracy theories about Jewish space lazers and litter boxes in schools. But I didnāt and now I hopefully have another 40 years still left to live authentically.
Our brains only reach peak maturity after 25, in some cases later than that! A mature brain can better navigate the complexities of life and the education system.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with changing ones path at any age. If you find a better path, take it!
Worth noting that the study that people get the āmaturity after 25ā came from uses that number only because that was the oldest person in the study. Itās sometime after 25, we just donāt know how long after. Weāre constantly changing and maturing, you donāt have to be committed to what you started at 25 thinking āthis is itā.
Also itās sort of common (experiential) knowledge in mental healthcare that addiction just hits the pause button on whatever developmental stage youāre in then sobriety unpauses it and you have to start dealing with whatever psychological stage you were avoiding at the time. So if you start using at 14 then get sober 15 years later youāre gonna be sorting out identity vs role confusion at 30 fucking years old. And the stages are really spaced out as you get older so if you turn into an alcoholic in your late 30s and spend 15 years before getting sober itās not going to be such a noticeable gap since you were mostly finished with intimacy vs isolation anyway and youāre only missing like half of generativity vs stagnation.
TLDR; it doesnāt mess with your development only before 25 itās just much more noticeable when a 30y/o still acts like a teenager than when a 50y/o still acts like a 35y/o.
Where would I read more about these developmental stages? Iāve not heard of them before and want to read more. I have a minor in child psychology from university, but that was so long ago my textbooks were on papyrus scrolls and Iāve not really kept up with the literature
Try Wikipedia for Erikssonās psychosocial stages. Thatās the thing they were teaching ~10y ago and idt itās gone out of fashion as the overall framework yet.
With 18 life is basically over
Ok kids, 30 is barely entering midlife. People start over at 40-50 all the time.
To anyone struggling with - imagine self in 2050, cursing own ass that You did not it 24 years earlier. Would 2050 be too late? maybe? so start at that earlier.
Even if there be no 2050, You will be the one who did a fightā¦ then, what if, there will be 2050 and You do cursesā¦
in 5 generations people are going to be born fully developed and employed
