• grrgyle@slrpnk.net
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    5 hours ago

    I need to be active in validating myself and saying something like, “good job dude!”

    Huh that is interesting. My sister gave me the tip of literally patting myself on the shoulder after a hard day and saying “good job.”

    I wonder if it’s something like this, because as silly as it feels, it actually does trigger a little something - I guess like this feeling of self-solidarity, is how I’d put it.

    • Psychodelic@lemmy.world
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      4 hours ago

      Basically. I think of it as allow yourself to get that dopamine hit, instead of doing what I do which is probably like think you should’ve done it already or see how easy that was, why didn’t you do it sooner. Fuck all that. Say good shit bro! Turned out sick

      Then hopefully you can make it a habit/ritual and actually make it feel natural or even funish.

      Not there yet at all myself