• HeartyBeast@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    I don’t know what your gender is a a comment or, so I’m very happy to refer to you in a gender neutral way, as should be.

    As an ex journalist I’ve been using a gender neutral ‘they’ to refer to hypothetical people eg: ‘the applicant should attach their passport photo’ since the 1980s. It better than the ugly ‘his/her’.

    Keep in mind that yes, some non-binary people or trans folk do go to see a therapist - and the result is they come out being happy as non-binary or trans.

    Really, this isn’t the most important thing in the world. It’s just courteous to refer to people im the way that they like to be referred. Courtesy is good, yes?

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      1 year ago

      Well, that’s because you don’t know or don’t care about the gender of the applicant, not because that applicant is non-binary

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            Because they’re totally different uses of gender-neutral language

            OK, let’s go with that. Can you please help me understand what problem is created for you by someone being non-binary and wishing to be referred to as they?

            I understand that problem #1 is you are being asked to be respectful to someone you disagree with, but if we can get past that…?

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              1 year ago

              I’d use “they/them” pronouns if I’m asked to out of respect to another human being, but that won’t make me stop thinking that usage is bs

              • So, no actual problem.

                (You are of course, welcome to think whatever you want. I’d be in big trouble every time I was behind someone with a Trump sticker on their car if this wasn’t the case.)

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                    No problem that merits legislating against it (looks at title of OP) and certainly no problem that merits it being such a focus of the right-wing culture wars.

                    No problem if you don’t feel like being rightfully labeled a bigot is a problem.

                    I say as I’ve said repeatedly - no problem you or anyone else has is caused by someone wanting to be called they. The only problem that exists is the inability of the right to live and let live. (As is true of many other topics.)