I personally am in a phenomenally stable polyamorous relationship. I’ve been married to my wife for 12 years, and she has had the same boyfriend for about half of that time. It’s a really fulfilling arrangement for all of us in various ways. We’re all genuinely happy and satisfied. I’m kind of casually looking for a boyfriend of my own.

But I feel like I only hear negative stories about other poly experiences. It’s always unstable people and situations. It’s always two out of three people happy at most. Surely there are other success stories out there, and I just hear the disasters because they’re more memorable and fun to tell. Does anyone else have or know a polyamory success story?

EDIT: This blew up a little while I was asleep. I promise I’m at least reading every comment.

EDIT 2.0: ngl I did not expect the trope of polyamory to fix a struggling relationship would be so real. We did just the opposite and are both baffled. Don’t use volitility to fight the volitility.

  • tjhart85@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    My wife and I have been poly for going on a decade now and my girlfriend has been part of the equation since damn near the beginning.

    My wife, girlfriend & I all jointly own our home together and things have been great!

    I (male, cis-het) don’t date outside the two of them (I don’t have that kind of time!) … both of the ladies have other partners though, mostly with the goal of them being long term, but like most relationships (poly or mono) they generally fizzle out for one reason or another. Wife has a partner that’s been pretty stable for almost a year though and girlfriend has a LDR that’s been strong for 5ish years.

    We’ve all “come out” to our family and friends long ago, mostly with no blowback. I am not close with people at my current job, so they don’t know, but, I also use the words ‘wife’ and ‘girlfriend’ so if they haven’t picked up on it, it’s not because I’m omitting, I’m just not telling people that don’t need to know about my personal life the specifics about my personal life.

    If you were to judge monogamy by the shit that pops up in relationship advice threads, people would have a bad impression of it as well!