Out of curiosity (please feel free to disregard if the question is too personal), when youāve partaken in kinky activities with other people, has it been sexual in nature or have they been other types of experiences?
Iām not very knowledgeable about that world but Iāve always sort of associated it with sexual gratification, I have heard fairly recently that a pretty large portion of people engage in it without involving sex and Iām just curious about what kind of enjoyment is involved in that case.
Not OP, but a thing I am pretty heavily involved in. It depends a lot on the community youāre in and the culture around it, and my experience is that most people who practice kink in a community setting also consider it an integral part of their sexual life, but not exclusively so. There are many that approach it as a connective practice that focuses on power exchange, communication, and sensory exploration as much or more than as a form of purely sexual gratification. The kind of intimacy and connection that you cultivate with mindful, consistent kink, even if not explicitly sexual, often cultivates a safe environment for negotiating and potentially exploring sexual chemistry with a partner if the feeling is mutual.
Generally, itās considered normal for sexual boundaries or interests to be a part of negotiations when youāre exploring a kinky connection with someone, however it is rarely a deal-breaker in my experience if either partner isnāt interested in that, nor is it often the primary thing being negotiated. I have a few partners that I regularly do kinky things with and also have sex or do sexual things with. Many of the people in my community do consistently integrate kink with sex, but most of what goes on in public or semi-private spaces are non-sexual scenes.
Out of curiosity (please feel free to disregard if the question is too personal), when youāve partaken in kinky activities with other people, has it been sexual in nature or have they been other types of experiences?
Iām not very knowledgeable about that world but Iāve always sort of associated it with sexual gratification, I have heard fairly recently that a pretty large portion of people engage in it without involving sex and Iām just curious about what kind of enjoyment is involved in that case.
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Not OP, but a thing I am pretty heavily involved in. It depends a lot on the community youāre in and the culture around it, and my experience is that most people who practice kink in a community setting also consider it an integral part of their sexual life, but not exclusively so. There are many that approach it as a connective practice that focuses on power exchange, communication, and sensory exploration as much or more than as a form of purely sexual gratification. The kind of intimacy and connection that you cultivate with mindful, consistent kink, even if not explicitly sexual, often cultivates a safe environment for negotiating and potentially exploring sexual chemistry with a partner if the feeling is mutual.
Generally, itās considered normal for sexual boundaries or interests to be a part of negotiations when youāre exploring a kinky connection with someone, however it is rarely a deal-breaker in my experience if either partner isnāt interested in that, nor is it often the primary thing being negotiated. I have a few partners that I regularly do kinky things with and also have sex or do sexual things with. Many of the people in my community do consistently integrate kink with sex, but most of what goes on in public or semi-private spaces are non-sexual scenes.