I’ve realized that I’m one of those people who always demands too much of themselves. I’m constantly thinking that I’m not doing enough and that I need to be doing more.
Recently, all this exhaustion finally caught up with me, and I got sick. I thought it was a perfect excuse to finally relax: just play video games, do nothing, and actually enjoy myself.
So, I started playing games and tried to stop guilt-tripping myself for being “unproductive.” Around the same time, my brother told me that this “cult of productivity” mostly serves capitalists — they want you to keep improving so they can get more out of you for the same pay. They want you to spend your energy becoming “better” instead of actually resting.
I thought that after a week of being sick, I’d be ready to jump back into my usual hobbies. But I wasn’t. Now, I don’t even know if I actually like programming or self-hosting anymore. Did I ever really enjoy it, or did I just convince myself I did?
It’s been two or three weeks now, and I’m still doing almost nothing. I’m starting to doubt everything I was interested in. I just wanted to share these feelings and ask: has anyone else been in a situation like this? Where you just don’t know what you’re doing it for anymore?
Thanks for listening.
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Sounds like mild depression… Don’t be too hard on yourself but don’t slip into malaise either - set a goal that is outside of your normal routine, maybe running for 10 minutes without a break, maybe stretching and getting to new level of flexibility, maybe a daily 10 minute meditation routine. Best of luck shaking it off!
I’ve been in a similar situation just recently. It happened last year around the same time, too. Sometimes we get into the mindset that productivity is a necessary sacrifice, but it’s not. You can only flog yourself so much until you drop.
Honestly, doing nothing is underrated, and it helps put things in perspective. “Vegging out” might look like laziness, but it’s really saying yes to yourself. Some people burn out sooner or later than others. It doesn’t mean they’re super productive, or not cut out for whatever it is.
Keep doing what you can to put yourself first. You eventually come back refreshed to maintain a pace more suited to you, and those who need you will be glad to have you back.
Also, therapy and meds helped me. No one should do without the former at least once in their lives, and it’s okay to admit you can’t function well without the latter.
You don’t have to “tough it out” for anyone but yourself.
You’ve had a good warning. Some people push themselves and go their whole lives in cycles of being sick, recovering, burning out, lather rinse, repeat.
Take some time to take a step back and re-evaluate everything. I really mean everything. From where you buy groceries and what you buy, to who you hang out with, to what screens you watch and for why. Then see what you can cut. As much as I hate to use the comparison, see what sparks joy in these non-tangible things, and start to drop a few things where you can. It’s OK to change hobbies and interests. It’s also OK to set them aside for a while and come back later.
Personally, I’ll say that self-hosting might be more than just a hobby, it might be a privacy bulwark worth keeping. Figure that out for yourself.
Be unproductive, it’s OK. I’m the same way and when I’m on vacation, even just a weekend away, it takes me a while to get past a feeling that I should be doing something. I can’t just read a book until at least a day or two in.
Good luck!
Not sure how much armchair psychology helps here… But I think it is a relatable feeling. Not sure if the exhaustion is the cause of the lack of motivation. Or a symptom for something else. But it’s obviously hard to do any kind of work while either exhausted or having lost the motivation. I mean burnout is real, for sure.
