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Cake day: March 23rd, 2020

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  • he just says he doesn’t know when i ask how to help

    Yea. Because he doesn’t know.

    It’s significantly harder to propose a solution than a problem. It’s also significantly harder to execute a solution than propose one.

    I think there’s a lot of good advice in this thread. Pick one that resonates with you and execute on it. Remember, you don’t find the perfect partner. You build them. All you gotta do is find someone that can be built.



  • I’ve been there (both sides) and I’ve meant for a while to write up a post on the subject, but “being there” only goes so far. If neither of you are actively improving as individuals, things get boring and look bad. You (both) need hobbies to develop your character and feel good about yourselves, and to be impressed by the improvement in one another. This is a self fulfilling, positive loop.

    If you have money, one thing that I’ve seen is going to the gym together (if you have a lot of money, get a personal trainer). Other things like rock climbing, hiking, or setting a goal to get a new job allows you to improve and motivate each other with your progress. It keeps you focused on something (other than depression) and helps you turn everything around.