Haha for real, I have seen that a lot and fought not to be that person the second I noticed I wasn’t good at this and it wouldn’t be different.

I went out of my way to have a pretty rough time where I was basically burned out for a couple of years so my kid would always be met with safety and love. But it nearly killed me and is exactly why I only have one.

Those years are too formative to be fucking around with “I’ll just damage you for my own selfish desires.”

Even still I live with guilt most days worrying about the damage I do not really being wired for this. I wish I’d had better self awareness before I got into it all.

So take everything I say as a sample size of 1. I am autistic and have CPTSD from childhood neglect.

Yeah it’s true. But to me it’s not a good thing. It’s that your standards go to shit! I’ve said my whole life that parents don’t seem happier with kids they seem so utterly broken that they are able to celebrate really basic things.

You become thankful for the small things because the big things are gone. You choose to love X because Y is not an option any more etc.

There are chemical processes that make you all lovey dovey for your kid for sure, but to be honest… Definitely not enough. I remember in the first year thinking how did we survive evolutionarily? I would def without a solid moral compass have left this thing in a cave and walked away so many times! 😂

In short, before I had kids I could do what I want, when I wanted, I had friends, I saw my family, I had more money, I could spend time on personal development, I could take a couple of hours to breathe and reset my nervous system if needed, etc. For years those things stop existing and they mostly will not be the same again for at least a decade or so… Even then I don’t know. It’s genuinely a horrific decision in so many ways.

To be honest I’m not entirely sure the whole “your mind clicks a different way” isn’t just a trauma response 😅

Anyways, I know I’m an outlier. But it’s hard for me to really believe folks that speak SO positively of it… I just don’t see it in their lives, they also look like they have given up so much for so little.

I 100% agree, and hope that remains to be an option. But also… things can change, and they can change fast. We are all only a few days of missed meals or missed mortgage payments from having very different standards.

Or a submarine.

The problem is, while you and I have a problem with that, billionaires don’t.

That it isn’t different when they are your own… I really don’t like young children (like under 3/4 or so.) Thankfully I actually do like them as they age but fuck me are young children the absolute worst (for me).

So I know i’n replying to this late - but I know Obsidian has a couple of Journaling plugins, Diarian in particular is made to emulate DayOne.

I haven’t used DayOne since I was on a iPhone 4 so it’s been a while but would be worth checking out if you haven’t found a good option yet.

This is interesting as I’ve not even heard of Floorp and alternatives have been such a hot topic the last month between manifest v3 and firefoxes updated terms fiasco.

Can I ask, what for you had you opt for floorp vs the more commonly mentioned alternatives like Librewolf, Waterfox, etc.?

I’ve been checking this site on and off from Europe for about a month. Can someone who knows more than me explain the expected timeline for what remains?

I feel like it jumped up into the mid 30%s after only a month or so and then stagnated for weeks.

Now it seems to have jumped again. But I guess I’m wondering at what sort of percentage does everything go to shit (not that it isn’t already!). Are there points where there is a no turning back or civil war becomes inevitable, etc.? Or does it hit a certain percentage where it will jump to 100% overnight due to certain protections being removed.

I guess I’m struggling to wrap my head around what I’m seeing, what it looks like between 40% and 100% and how quickly this might happen?

Even a guide somewhere on the net that breaks it down would be great.

There is an Organic Maps ios app which I use to mostly good effect. Occasionally have to fall back to Google maps and then I make a note to update OSM with the details missing where possible later.

Thanks so much for sharing this Bookwyrm is on my radar to try (currently use storygraph). I’ve been looking for ways to contribute to the open source community as a non-coder so def going to check out bookbrainz. Freedom of information is one of my biggest passions and this goes hand in hand with those goals as they form the backbone of meaningful archival efforts.

Thanks so much for the reply, I’ll give it a download to play with it - I certainly am a big fan of simple!

This looks great. Thanks so much for your work on this and sharing with us.

What in your opinion sets your software apart from the other options you mention?

I have recently setup dockers for plex, immich, nextcloud and paperlessngx but have yet to look at longterm maintenence inc. things like auto updates (I know to avoid on immich).

As someone who prob knows the options inside and out - would you recommend your option to this relative newbie or do you think one of the other options might be a better place to start?

The world: How much are your eggs?

Trump: $100

The world: Sure we’ll help… that will be $99.

That they can’t see they are actually saying…

If god is so bad then why did he give we buy Joel Osteen such a giant house??

Christ I reread that first line about 5 times trying to figure out how introducing a comma would help make things better.

Guess I’m all in on the original.

Yes! And more commonly referred to as “blindos”

Me turning up the radio whenever my car starts making a terrible noise.

Holy shit, after years of trying to convince my wife to join Reddit it turns out you were here on Lemmy all along.