manga is Kawaii Hito
The totally cishet male fantasy of a woman who loves you no matter your gender expression
My favorite example
Iād like to commend comedian Allison Devery, who married friend and head of their sketch comedy YouTube channel Door Monster Kyle C. Sullivan* in January 2019. They stayed together after Kyle came out to her in late 2022 (see R*ddit comment answering when/how the egg cracked) and they even moved to the Northeast from Texas, presumably seeking a more accepting environment. Kyle publicly came out this January with a Doctor Who reference (edit: in September on the livestream channel) to reassure people the content is still by the nerdy person they love (although itās been more solo and long-form over the past few years because of their friendsā distance and occupation). For less than a year of apparent transitioning, she sounds confident with her new voice and looks stunning, presumably helped by the loving spouse.
* I hope thatās not her(?) dead name; information is hard to come by especially that thereās also crossdressing male actor and YouTube comedian L. Kyle Sullivan. A secondary channel is called Kyle Devery (renamed from Door Monster Studio sometime this year) but that might just be a combination of both hostsā names. I havenāt seen conclusive evidence and āKyle Sullivanā is not unique anyway so best just call her āKyle [of Door Monster fame]ā.
(She might have changed her surname but since she hasnāt corrected wiki entries etc., Iād guess she wouldnāt be offended by me referring to her (especially her pre-transition self) by full name: one of her social profiles** even still starts with āVFX boyā. Similarly, I havenāt seen any official pronoun post so Iām using āshe/herā to refer to her throughout her life, as default for a trans woman. However, Iād probably use āhe/himā for all the male characters she has played in 2008-2025, although the long-running Kyleverse seriesā self-inserts are debatable.)** Itās the Xitter profile, which Iām not surprised she wouldnāt touch: Kylecorp (with a logo clearly parodying āšā but with a K) is the ultimate villain in the sci-fi episodes of Kyleverse.
Imagine how it must feel to have the love of your life go beyond the expectations of partnership/marriage and accept you as a different kind of person from who you both assumed to have been on your wedding day ā especially in a place where acceptance is not the norm. And accomodate the needs you now have, including confidentiality if applicable!
Unfortunately for gender-questioning folks, bi/pan people are a minority of potential partners and openly seeking them might get misinterpreted as soliciting polygamy. (Nothing wrong with consensual polygamy but also nothing wrong with rejecting it.)
There are lots of monogamous bi/pan/omni people and itās not weird to say you have a preference for non-straight partners (since a relationship with another queer person usually feels queer even if youāre āstraight passingā to society)
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