This is genius

  • MIDItheKID@lemmy.world
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    6 hours ago

    Last year for Halloween I asked my daughter what she wanted to be. She said she wanted to be the Big Bad Wolf. I asked her who I should be and she said Goldilocks.

    Yes I am aware that they are not even from the same story.

    But when your daughter says so, then you do so.

    Except for maybe blackface. Don’t ever do blackface.

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    9 hours ago

    Or you embarrass the shit out of someone exploring gender identity and they feel like even wearing a dress on Halloween means everyone thinks they’re a trans woman, and they need to go back and fit in the gender box they were assigned

    Not everyone needs to transition

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      4 hours ago

      Yeah the implication that someone dressing as the other gender is a reason to attempt to punish them just doesn’t make sense on so many levels here.

    • GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      6 hours ago

      Even if they are an egg who should likely transition some day, they kinda need to come to that conclusion themselves. Trying to force that info on them before they’re ready to accept it could very likely push that back into repressing their gender even longer. Probably better to tell them they look great in that outfit and they’re really pulling it off. Give them the euphoria of feeling cute and hope they figure the rest out.

    • KombatWombat@lemmy.world
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      9 hours ago

      Yeah, I imagine this would be awkward much more often than it would be well-received. Most people aren’t trans, and assuming their costume is secretly a cry for help is likely to embarrass them. It’s the one time of the year you are supposed to be able to dress weird without people making assumptions about you.

    • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      9 hours ago

      I agree that not everyone needs to transition.

      However, I don’t see the problem in at least trying to be helpful. Gently trying to open up this topic, seeing how they react. If they’re uncomfortable or not interested, you don’t push them ofc and you leave them alone. If they become angry, it’s probably a shitty cis guy.

      I personally would have given anything for someone to have done this for me 5-6 years ago. I would give anything to have started earlier. And pardon me for being blunt, but if you don’t experience the crippling pain that is gender dysphoria, you may not completely understand that yourself.

      • Jiggle_Physics@quokk.au
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        9 hours ago

        If you plan to actually try to help someone who does this on halloween, please do it at a different time, in private, and be very careful about what you say, and how you approach this. There is a reason we have the saying that the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

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    10 hours ago

    But there are other options too… Some may just like an excuse to cross dress in public without transitioning

    • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      10 hours ago

      Sure. But you can probably figure that out by gauging their reaction. If they seem to get angry, it’s almost certainly a shitty cis dude.

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        8 hours ago

        Intentionally trying to provoke people whose identities and intentions you don’t even know is kinda shitty though, isn’t it?

        • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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          8 hours ago

          Would you call this provocation tho? From my understanding, this meme was mostly bashing cis dudes who basically make fun of trans people by “dressing up as women” and using that in offensive and misogynistic ways.

          But yes you’re right, it is. And I admit I’m a really shitty person.

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            7 hours ago

            I guess my problem is reducing the pool of people down to eggs and misogynistic dude bros, when in reality there’s a wide array of personalities and identities

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                7 hours ago

                We all live and learn. I was a total asshole at your age, I think you’re doing great 😂 Thank you for listening.

                • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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                  7 hours ago

                  “Your age”? How dare you? 😭 /s

                  No but seriously, I transitioned from total asshole to total bitch, so this isn’t your fault at all, lol. I actually really am sorry.
                  Thank you 💜

  • Duchess@piefed.linenoise.vip
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    10 hours ago

    Oh the number of Halloweens my egg ass wore a dress 🤭 I was pretty performative with my gender too so nobody suspected a thing it was a big old laugh. I wish I had had queer friends to even know that transitioning was a thing!

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    9 hours ago

    cis dude already dressed as a girl as a joke, so probably would take trans material as an extension of the joke