• Lt. Worf, son of Mogh@lemmy.caOP
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      I’m all ears for recommendations. I’ve wasted money on pillows that were great for one night and then started causing problems. =(

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      I’m on the buckwheat train. Tried different pillows and ended up with buckwheat. The pillow allows you to mold the shape to an extent which makes it extremely flexible. They also come in different sizes and good pillow sellers will either overstuff them or give you a bag with extra stuffing. You can open the pillow up (via zipper usually) to remove and add more buckwheat for even more customization. It’s just extremely flexible overall.

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        Jumping on the buckwheat train. I was terrible at pushing all my pillows into the bedhead and waking up with a bent neck before picking up one of these. Another benefit is they don’t get uncomfortably warm. It’s really nice that I can wriggle to flatten it out for back sleeping, or fluff it up to the perfect height for side sleeping.

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      Right? My one pillow is just on the verge of almost too much, but I like few pillows and my neck is fucked up.

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      I tried Tempur. Slumbar worked for me as a side sleeper. They have the knee pillow too but it just ends up popping out. I just use the duvet.

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    I have a tempur “soft” pillow and it’s too high.

    I used to have a beaten up old fuck feather pillow and you could mould it into any shape you needed, it was great! I miss my shitty old pillow, my futuristic pillow isn’t the answer.

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      I feel this. I just moved and a certain family member ‘helped’ me move by throwing away stuff that I’d already dropped off at my new place that didn’t meet their arbitrary standards including, yes, almost all the bedding. So now I’m sleeping through the hottest part of the year with the most unforgivingly thick pillows and the winter duvet.

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      I have a memory foam pillow (or something like that)for years and stays the exact same hardness. Would really knock someone out in a pillow fight with it. Best pillow ever

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      This is the way. Any medium fill power down will be like that in a few weeks.

      Everything I’ve tried is worse than down. The memory foam pillows are better than the synthetic fake down pillows that are hot garbage.

      If your pillow is $10-20 it’s probably not a good pillow.

      But pillows are super subjective. My wife grew up with the thicker synthetic ones and hates my pillows. Upside is hers are cheap I guess!

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      I have the purple pillow. It’s great! Both sides are “the cold side” and, if needed, you could kill a man with it!

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        My wife has one of these. I don’t like the weird texture it has and often refer to it as her “space waffle” pillow, which gets a laugh out of her.

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          I got used to the texture pretty quick, and it’s well worth it. I even got a purple mattress, which is just as great

          I’m definitely not paid by Purple, haha

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            Honestly, I’ve been having trouble with this lately so even if you were I’m desperate for solutions.

            They didn’t tell me as a kid that side sleeping would be a problem.

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              I sleep every-which-way. Some days stock still on my back like the dead, other days on my front sprawled out, and other days on my side. I’ve got pretty broad shoulders and the purple pillow (the flat one, not the poofy one) and medium-firm mattress combo does wonders for me. On my side I sink just enough into the mattress to lay my head flat, and on my back/front works just the same. Not sure how well it would work for you, and Purple is a bit pricey, but I highly recommend them. Just make sure you try them out at one of their locations, first. The grid is easy to get used to (I got used to it in a few days, and now I never notice it), so try to ignore the texture, just go by overall feel

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      I bring a couple of pillows from home whenever I can. Doesn’t work for flights, of course, but on shorter trips it’s a godsend.

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      My mom uses like ten thousand pillows to sleep and I just cannot. I need a thin pillow, so I like ones that are already “broken in”. How do side sleepers manage to sleep with thick pillows and not hurt their necks?

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    Life pro tip for side sleepers who need a super thick / fluffy pillow:

    Buy a king sized pillow and put it in a normal sized pillow case that has one of those little flaps at the open end. The extra stuffing compressed to a normal sized pillow makes for the best thick pillow.

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    You should learn how to fluff your pillow

    Your body posture also plays a part and if you have horrible posture that can contribute to pain

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      Side sleeper here. I put one thin one between my legs so they are parallel and the joints don’t press against each other. I have a thick “hugger” so my top arm doesn’t just hang unsupported and pull on my back muscles all night. The problem is my lower arm gets pressed on all night or I have to find the magic position for it that is comfortable.

      Back sleeping means I have to get the neck just right but then I usually snore and I get wacked by my wife.

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    I’m a side sleeper but the human body keeps interfering (this arm is in the way). If I sleep on my back I snore and my wife wacks me.

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      Wait are you being for real? That can’t be good for your neck. I’ve fallen asleep like that 1 time when i got way too high on the zaza and i had the worst neck pain ever.

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        Haven’t used a pillow in five years. Your spine is meant to be straight at night, so no pillow is the way to go. It is also helpful if you have breathing issues.

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          I take it you sleep on your back or stomach then? I think for people like me who sleep on their side, my neck hurts just from the idea of not using a pillow.

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          That’s wild man. I sleep on my belly with one leg hiked up to my chest and a pillow that’s big enough for my head and for me to hug and wrap around. Sure it’s also bad for you but man do i get some insane sleep and dreams from it

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          Try that when you’re old. Side sleeping leads to extreme neck pain /stiffness the next day because your neck isn’t straight when sleeping without a pillow.

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        I find sleeping on my recliner actually feels the best because my head is kept aligned with my spine better. I’ve read that in the old days (like 1700s and such) they slept sitting almost upright.

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      My pillow is so thin my wife is like “well just put a towel in the pillowcase”

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      I sleep on my back without a pillow.

      But I still have a pillow so I can look at my phone.

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    And here I am with a half stuffed pillow because a full pillow makes me choke on my sleep

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    You need to find the right pillow. This is important for good quality sleep. For instance I know that i need a thin pillow if I am on a soft bed but a thicker pillow if I am on a firm bed.