• Transporter Room 3@startrek.website
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    5 months ago

    I found out my mother had HEART SURGERY two weeks ago when my sister sent a weird “she’s out of the operating room and I recovery” message, I thought she meant her mother in law and was informing my parents on the family group text, since my parents know her a lot better than I do.

    Nope. It was my own mother, and nobody told me about a surgery they all knew about 6 months in advance.

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        5 months ago

        Honestly I have no idea.

        And its not just my immediate family either.

        When my grandfather died, nobody in my family had been told he was having anything done until that morning, so we scrambled to visit him. There wasn’t any huge problem, but any time someone in their 70s is in the hospital, especially for a surgery, it’s cause for concern.

        And its a good thing we did because he bled out during the surgery, which was supposed to be a minor surgery in his lower abdomen.

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        5 months ago

        idk i’m this way. Although that’s mostly because i hate socializing and interacting. You probably won’t know when i die until 4 months pass and you realize on a whim that you havent seen me in an awfully long time, only to find that i don’t respond.

        Such is life i suppose. (for some people at least)

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          5 months ago

          That makes me wonder if lemmy has a death notice community like reddit’s r/deadredditors

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            5 months ago

            maybe, though for me it’s not unusual to just disappear for a long period of time. I think i would probably set something up to monitor my existence and report my behavior to family members, since i know i wouldn’t lmao.