Idk, it sounds like that’s a pretty good (and totally non-harmful in any way) strategy to help manage an inherently stressful thing like a job interview…? Do you not get stressed by those?
I mean this strategy wouldn’t work for me because I don’t play those things but if they do, power to ‘em.
I suppose so, but if someone is that anxious about an interview I feel like they probably need help more generally. If we really believe this is the only time they need to have a coping mechanism for their anxiety then I’d agree with you
i mean, probably more people experience anxiety about an interview than don’t. having created a mechanism which supports this person in conceptualizing herself and her experience more positively to manage that anxiety is a good sign, to me.
As someone who has hired hundreds of people, its quite rare for someone not to be nervous, although the more senior the posistion the less the case generally.
Most people are nervous enough that you can notice thier hands shaking, especially for junior posistions.
I just put them at ease as best I can, most relax somewhat but some don’t
I haven’t hired nearly as many as you, but I’ve interviewed dozens and have seen the same thing. This has been largely technical developer interviews, and the thing that seems to work is changing things up. We’ll alternate between technical questions, coding challenges, and experience questions, and we tell them at the start that we’ll take any questions they have at the end. If they seem overly stressed, we’ll offer to take a small break (get water or something), especially since the interviews I’m part of are 2 hours long.
So far, it has worked well. We like the people we hired, and we give plenty of chances for candidates to redeem themselves during the interview if they give a stupid answer because of stress. We start easy and build up to harder questions.
Again the question isn’t if people are nervous in interviews. Pretty much any human who has ever held a job knows this. My comment is that at least to me this screams coping mechanism I have difficulty believing they aren’t anxious about a looot of other things in life. And they can get help.
Maybe their therapist suggested this. You are making a lot of assumptions about this person with absolutely no information.
If most of my therapists had been told I did something like this and that it helped me they would ask about it to share as an option with other patients.
Who cares if it’s a coping mechanism? It’s a healthy coping mechanism, the same as imagining someone dressed as a clown or something. That’s all therapy gives you anyway. Healthy ways to deal with the world around you.
Idk, it sounds like that’s a pretty good (and totally non-harmful in any way) strategy to help manage an inherently stressful thing like a job interview…? Do you not get stressed by those?
I mean this strategy wouldn’t work for me because I don’t play those things but if they do, power to ‘em.
I suppose so, but if someone is that anxious about an interview I feel like they probably need help more generally. If we really believe this is the only time they need to have a coping mechanism for their anxiety then I’d agree with you
i mean, probably more people experience anxiety about an interview than don’t. having created a mechanism which supports this person in conceptualizing herself and her experience more positively to manage that anxiety is a good sign, to me.
As someone who has hired hundreds of people, its quite rare for someone not to be nervous, although the more senior the posistion the less the case generally.
Most people are nervous enough that you can notice thier hands shaking, especially for junior posistions.
I just put them at ease as best I can, most relax somewhat but some don’t
I haven’t hired nearly as many as you, but I’ve interviewed dozens and have seen the same thing. This has been largely technical developer interviews, and the thing that seems to work is changing things up. We’ll alternate between technical questions, coding challenges, and experience questions, and we tell them at the start that we’ll take any questions they have at the end. If they seem overly stressed, we’ll offer to take a small break (get water or something), especially since the interviews I’m part of are 2 hours long.
So far, it has worked well. We like the people we hired, and we give plenty of chances for candidates to redeem themselves during the interview if they give a stupid answer because of stress. We start easy and build up to harder questions.
Again the question isn’t if people are nervous in interviews. Pretty much any human who has ever held a job knows this. My comment is that at least to me this screams coping mechanism I have difficulty believing they aren’t anxious about a looot of other things in life. And they can get help.
Maybe their therapist suggested this. You are making a lot of assumptions about this person with absolutely no information.
If most of my therapists had been told I did something like this and that it helped me they would ask about it to share as an option with other patients.
Who cares if it’s a coping mechanism? It’s a healthy coping mechanism, the same as imagining someone dressed as a clown or something. That’s all therapy gives you anyway. Healthy ways to deal with the world around you.