• Dasus@lemmy.world
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      7 hours ago

      Oh it’s not about this being hard.

      It’s about me saying I literally did not notice as I do not see gender in words like you do.

      I admit that when using English I notice it more when it’s a feminine pronoun than when it’s a masculine one.

      The point I’m making is that I did not misgender anyone. If anything, I disgendered English.

      So no. I’m not going to admit to misgendering someone, when I most certainly don’t do that on purpose. What I might do is not read the username of a person I’m replying to. As I prefer responding to the message, not the person.

      It’s not my fault English isn’t gender neutral when I am. I naturally speak and think in a way that does not account for gender. Would you like for me to start replacing that with archaic gender stereotypes?

      • Walk_blesseD@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        If anything, I disgendered English.

        No you didn’t, masculine is still a gender. I’m totally willing to believe that this was an innocent mistake to begin with but by tripling down on it like this you’re just being a dick.

        It’s not my fault English isn’t gender neutral when I am. I naturally speak and think in a way that does not account for gender.

        You understand that English does have gender neutral pronouns, right? “His” just isn’t one of them. At any rate, given that Rose has her pronouns in her display name there’s no need to use neutral language anyway.

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          Calm down guy, it doesnt even seem like the person you’re talking about took offense with it. Why claim their outage for your own?

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          5 hours ago

          Name a gender-neutral singular third person pronoun from English that isn’t “it” (calling people “it” in English is very offensive, but in Finnish it’s just natural colloquialism, but I know enough to avoid that in English)

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            5 hours ago

            they

            eta: to degender your comment you could say “this person knows their junkies”

            but being as you’ve been beaten over the head with the fact that the OP uses she/her pronouns that would also be misgendering her.

            leaving it as using a masculine pronoun is rude at best and blatantly transphobic at worst. nobody thinks you were being actively harmful when you said it but not being willing to change it is toxic.

            you’re not the hero here.

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                  3 hours ago

                  How could they be wrong? They apologized and explained that it isn’t intentional and why. What exactly do you need to be happy here, seppuku?

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                    They didn’t apologize, they doubled down with some of the most insipid bullshit about pronouns not existing in English and how they’re “depronouning english”, despite defaulting to using the masculine, instead of just saying “oh yeah, I didn’t see the name, I’ll edit my comment”.