Note: unless youāre deliberately obscuring someoneās gender and know their preferred pronouns, use their preferred pronouns.
Note: unless youāre deliberately obscuring someoneās gender and know their preferred pronouns, use their preferred pronouns.
tbh i feel almost exactly the same way (though iām probably not enby).
she/her feels dangerous, because if i act or am treated as femme then the transphobes in my life might start to suspect me. they/them just feels totally wrong, itās not who i am. he/him at least feels safe, because it wonāt raise any suspicionsā¦
AND just like you, gender is probably gonna be the least painful part of the next decade for me lol