Lol. Neither of them are assholes. He decided to stick around for 5 years. He wants her to quit, she probably wants him to be more accepting. He could have left 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 year ago given that he’s upset she’s not trying hard enough.
People smoke for all kinds of reasons. Her dad’s death could’ve triggered some intense mental health issues. You don’t know. Who’s to say she didn’t try a few times?
She’s not an asshole lmao, she’s struggling with addiction and likely mental health issues. Neither is he for having these boundaries. It’s up to him to just leave.
This issue isn’t rising to the point of leaving. There is nothing in the world that would make me leave her. I disapprove of her decision to keep smoking. I am disappointed that she knows how to quit and refuses to do so again. There is definitely an issue here, but at the end of the day I can’t and won’t force her to do anything. I am definitely not without my faults too. It pisses me off, but I’m not going to go all high horse on her.
But honestly, I don’t know what to do about it. I do have a low level resentment about it, but we really do have a great relationship otherwise.
This isn’t a very nice comment. This user is calling the other person’s wife a horrible person and questioning her love for him. This is pretty rude and out of place. He is adamant on arguing that someone’s wife is horrible and an asshole. He is being completely dismissive of people with mental health problems statistically having trouble with cigarettes and is putting them all under a judgmental blanket. Enormous amount of negativity here. He is not being nice.
ill remove any comments that involve two or more commenters being rude to one another, im not going to remove comments where somebody expresses their opinion on somebody who isnt even here.
They’re being bigoted and you know it. The world needs more compassion, not less. My comment you deleted was in response to not only this extreme lack of compassion but the encouragement that nobody, including the woman’s husband, should be compassionate to people like that woman. Somehow my comment was worse. Ok, I guess.
the thing is the original commenter was asking for feedback in a “am i the asshole” format, in that case its perfectly acceptable to make judgements on character because it was asked for. however you dont get to call other commenters assholes because you disagree with them.
Next you’ll be telling depressed people to just brighten up and anxious overeaters to just eat less. In your childish view of the world where either one person is an asshole or the other must be, with zero nuance, it wouldn’t surprise me.
She’s not an asshole. Maybe they’re not a good match. But just because he tells her she needs to quit something that’s notoriously difficult to quit and she doesn’t do it, it doesn’t mean she’s an asshole.
If you want me to go away try to not engaging in further discussion lmao.
Lol. Neither of them are assholes. He decided to stick around for 5 years. He wants her to quit, she probably wants him to be more accepting. He could have left 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 year ago given that he’s upset she’s not trying hard enough.
People smoke for all kinds of reasons. Her dad’s death could’ve triggered some intense mental health issues. You don’t know. Who’s to say she didn’t try a few times?
She’s not an asshole lmao, she’s struggling with addiction and likely mental health issues. Neither is he for having these boundaries. It’s up to him to just leave.
This issue isn’t rising to the point of leaving. There is nothing in the world that would make me leave her. I disapprove of her decision to keep smoking. I am disappointed that she knows how to quit and refuses to do so again. There is definitely an issue here, but at the end of the day I can’t and won’t force her to do anything. I am definitely not without my faults too. It pisses me off, but I’m not going to go all high horse on her.
But honestly, I don’t know what to do about it. I do have a low level resentment about it, but we really do have a great relationship otherwise.
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This isn’t a very nice comment. This user is calling the other person’s wife a horrible person and questioning her love for him. This is pretty rude and out of place. He is adamant on arguing that someone’s wife is horrible and an asshole. He is being completely dismissive of people with mental health problems statistically having trouble with cigarettes and is putting them all under a judgmental blanket. Enormous amount of negativity here. He is not being nice.
ill remove any comments that involve two or more commenters being rude to one another, im not going to remove comments where somebody expresses their opinion on somebody who isnt even here.
They’re being bigoted and you know it. The world needs more compassion, not less. My comment you deleted was in response to not only this extreme lack of compassion but the encouragement that nobody, including the woman’s husband, should be compassionate to people like that woman. Somehow my comment was worse. Ok, I guess.
the thing is the original commenter was asking for feedback in a “am i the asshole” format, in that case its perfectly acceptable to make judgements on character because it was asked for. however you dont get to call other commenters assholes because you disagree with them.
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Your submission in “no smoking rule” was removed for be nice -erotador.
What? Ok. Can you delete the other guy’s aggressive comments too, then? Especially the one where he calls me pathetic? Thanks.
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Next you’ll be telling depressed people to just brighten up and anxious overeaters to just eat less. In your childish view of the world where either one person is an asshole or the other must be, with zero nuance, it wouldn’t surprise me.
She’s not an asshole. Maybe they’re not a good match. But just because he tells her she needs to quit something that’s notoriously difficult to quit and she doesn’t do it, it doesn’t mean she’s an asshole.
If you want me to go away try to not engaging in further discussion lmao.
Are you 12?
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Some people cope by smoking, others are chronically online sad assholes. Choose your vice, I suppose.