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genuinely have to turn porn off sometimes because the man is both the worst actor on the face of the earth and also wonāt shut the fuck up which completely kills the experience
These things kill it for me. Excessive talking, slapping, absurd gruntingā¦ Ughhā¦
Some are so damn good then the guy starts going all slap boxing on her and itās like wtf??
Not to mention some of the women hissing like a snake with a puncture.
I once watched one where she hissed like a pissed off kitten, which promptly pissed off my then kitten who was sleeping on my bed across the room. I laughed so hard I blacked out and lost my boner.
This is why I only watch lesbian porn, honestly.
Literally any thing BUT straight porn.
Straight women and men almost universally are unbearable to watch. From the sounds to the acting. Itās all painfully awful.
Solo straight people? For what ever reason are perfectly fine. Its baffling how the moment you put two straight people together their ability to act like a normal creature they suddenly become stupid.
like everything else, trying to do it for profit ruins everything. If you just stick to amateur stuff it tends to be perfectly fine, the grainier the video the more likely that theyāre genuinely passionately going at it.
But thatās gay
Try the manless section. Solved the issue for me.
Did you mean audio?
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I mean, then the woman will keep telling ādaddyā to give it to her.
Like, where I grew up, my block, one of the neighbor familiesā¦ the dad literally was raping one of his daughters, for years, he went to prison when he tried to pull the same shit with the younger daughter, fight ensued, and the older daughter and mom ended up with black eyes/broken noses.
Iāve always been immensely disgusted by the idea of women just verbalizing their daddy issues during sex, but its a very common porn trope as well.
Okay I am sorry that happened to those people but it is not about daddy issues. To be clear I am a lesbian who doesnāt share the same kink but mommy/daddy stuff is from caregiver little kink dynamics that have bled into the mainstream dirty talk a little bit. Kink is safe, empowering for subs with how many guardrails and consent frameworks there are and something I am passionate about. Yucking somebody elses yum is mean in the first place but calking it daddy issues of these women feels lightly misogynistic. Besides in porn specifically I am sure there is a director or something that gave them the lines.
Iām just saying that I find the trope/kink disgusting, its a massive turn off for me, for the reason I described.
In general, Iām all for kinks with guardrails and safewords and such for everybody, you do your thing.
However, Iām also allowed to have preferences and disprefences. If you or someone else is into calling people ādaddyā, great, just please donāt do it around or to me, as it literally triggers a sympathetic PTSD reflex in me.
It isnāt āyucking somebodies yumā to explain why I feel the way that I feel about a particular practice. At no point did I attack the broader idea of anyone engaging in this, I just explained why I donāt, and why I do not like it.
Also, the etymology of ādaddy issuesā is not as clear cut as you seem to think it is. As with many kink/lgbtq+ terms, its complicated and complex and means somewhat different things to different people, and itās had a meaning not directly stemming from totally ethical and safe kink.
https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/daddy_issues
āDaddy issuesā quite literally does mean ābehavioral tendencies that stem from an unhealthy relationship with oneās father.ā
Its meant approximately that since long before it got the meaning you understand it as having, in an ethical and consensual and healthy caregiver kink/dynamic.
I do not use the term as a flippant expression of annoyance, I use it with grave seriousness.
Its wild to me that you see my usage of the term as lightly misogynistic, when Iāve pretty well described that my dislike of this kink/trope comes from immense sympathy and empathy from a girl I personally knew as a childhood friend, who was horrifically abused.
Thanks for explaining, I still donāt totally agree with you in terms of ādaddy issuesā but yeah the rest of the issue is fair especially after the edit
āDaddy issuesā isnāt a kink term, and entirely refers to having a poor relationship with oneās father. I think you mayhe misread their comment as claiming it was a kink term?
The whole disagreement is that they think its lightly misogynistic to say that the only reason to engage in CG/l, or diluted versions of it like calling your partner daddy during sex, is because you had a bad relation with your father. In other words, using the term ādaddy issuesā at all was the issue, and you doubled down in this comment.
ā¦ There are tons of women with legitimate daddy issues or other kinds of history of sexual abuse who also insist on using the phrase ādaddyā to refer to their male partner during sex.
These things are intertwined, to the point that you can often correctly infer that a woman has daddy issues, has a traumatic sexual history, when she keeps calling you daddy, unprompted.
This is what I was talking about, untill it was determined that I am apparently a misogynist for talking about this.
Iāve known a pretty good deal of straight women where this is the case.
Iāve also been just platonic friends with a good deal of women, girls, I was friends with, and then I was also friends with their boyfriends, where the girl using ādaddyā in sex led to the boyfriend asking me if sheād had something fucked up about her family life, and me basically saying ānot my place to tell you.ā
Yeah, Iām doubling down against using ādaddyā during sex, unprompted, because in my experience, it very often indicates that that woman has been abused/groomed, and that I do not like the broad normalization of this.
Iām getting angry and emotional just writing this, as this brings up all the memories of female friends of mine Iāve just held while they cried, sometimes without explaining to me why, sometimes with me learning why, years later, in the roundabout fashion I described above.
Again, if its your kink to totally mutually consensually call people ādaddyā during sex, and your partner is into that, great, wonderful, go bananas.
Donāt do that near me, donāt show it to me, because it triggers a literally visceral series of traumatic memories within me, that I have because I was the person the abused girls cried with, the one they sought out to be consoled by.
Perhaps you can understand how my perference that ultimately derive from vivid memories of consoling female abuse victims ā¦ itself being described as misogynisticā¦ is enrgaging.
Holy fuck, youāre still going on with this?
Might I suggest a therapist? Because this is not a healthy reaction to something that doesnāt affect you whatsoever. What other people do in their own relationships has zero effect on you. And if it does, if what people call each other in their relationships offends you, thatās 100% a you problem. Your need to shoehorn yourself into someone elses life because you are uncomfortable about something has literally nothing to do with anyone but you.
Perhaps you can understand how my perference
YOUR PREFERENCE! YOURS! Not someone elses. Not anyone elses. YOURS. Just stop right there. No one is forcing you or any partner to call you Daddy. No one is suggesting you have to use it. The alphabet mafia is not putting a gun to your head. But your continued ranting about this and how it affects you, you should really seek some professional help.
You are in fact being misogynistic. Youāre telling women what they are or arenāt allowed to say because it makes YOU uncomfortable. Not your partners, not anyone consenting in any kind of language, youāre literally saying women using it is wrong.
Thatās misogynistic.
Itās not your job to tell others what they can and canāt use. My partner calls me āpuppyā. Do you think they actually think Iām a dog they want to fuck? Youāre not misogynistic for talking about it, expressing how it makes you feel, and the trauma with your friend. Itās misogynistic that you are going on tangents telling people that they shouldnāt use it because it makes you uncomfortable, which apparently your feelings are more important than anyone elses.
Youāre 100% in your right to not want it used around you. Thatās completely fine and acceptable. But you canāt come onto the Internet and tell people not to use it, actively INSERTING yourself into the language just so you can be offended by it. You can leave the thread. You can block users. You can just LEAVE. But you are intentionally inserting yourself into this just to tell others that it hurts your feelings.
Youāre literally part of the problem and youāre not even realizing it.
Then explain it to me.
She already did. Youāre making it into daddy issues or inappropriateness when itās entirely not that at all.
Just because YOU attribute malice to it doesnāt make it so. Your inability to separate the two is a you problem, not a kink or a sub/dom problem. And the fact you went on a whole tangent about how you feel it means makes you part of the problem of perpetuating something that just isnāt true.
The fact you felt the need to ramble on about what you think the term means or is derived from, when it was already explained to you that it isnāt thatā¦ Youāre part of the problem.
Iām sorry that happened to your friend. But it isnt up to you how the word is used by consenting couples. You can totally not want it used around you, and thatās up to you and your partner. You donāt get to tell others not only that they canāt use it, but to say itās something it isnāt, which is daddy issues.
Unfortunately, thatās not just a porn thing.
Yeah itās also a āMen who learned to fuck by watching pornā thing.
Men donāt get enough compliments and often worry about the adequacy of their penises.
If you want make a man happy, compliment their penis.
Bros need to normalize complimenting each otherās dicks.
