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Bro, you’re the asshole […] You hate smoking, good for you. But you need to chill the fuck out, holy shit this triggered the fuck out of you.

Good to know you have literally no real argument against it. You just had to resort to insulting me when I never did anything but challenge your argument.

He consents by staying in the relationship.

He gave her an ultimatum on the renewal of marriage and was asking if she was an asshole due to that. No. He doesn’t consent by staying in the relationship when he directly asked about it in the first place. You’re just immediately defending her addiction and saying essentially it’s her support blanket. It’s a weak defense.

This entire encounter is pathetic. You responded to my comment challenging my point and then got uppity when I dared to slap your point down. Just go away.

I don’t know what to do about it.

1. Roll over. Do nothing. Accept that your wife is an addict and doesn’t care enough about you to even try to quit smoking when you’ve made it an issue.

2. Pester her to quit.

3. Ask for couples therapy.

4. Seperate/Divorce

Those are literally your only options. You do nothing or you do something. In either case, you’ve got to address it if you want to do anything about it.

We really do have a great relationship otherwise

Do you? You said that you wouldn’t have married a smoker and you still refuse to. She is relying on a crutch that is killing her and causing harm to your own health. You’ve asked her to do something about it. She won’t. This isn’t like her passtime is knitting or something. It’s a money sink that is detrimental to the health of everyone involved and everyone around it. She’s more willing to poison herself than even consider quitting. Is it really a great relationship if someone isn’t willing to change to protect themselves, their health and your health?

She spent 5 years without attempting to make headway on something that is disgusting, makes the area smell disgusting, makes her smell disgusting, will stain skin and teeth, harms her and reduces her life span, harms her partner and reduces his lifepan when he DOESN’T CONSENT, and harms their relationship. She is UNQUESTIONABLY an asshole. You do not have a leg to stand on. Your arguments are just “Oh but she might need it to cope.”

I don’t care.

She is an addict and is refusing to budge. As someone who went from a pack every two days to nothing, and as someone who went from drinking half a pint of vodka everyday to nothing, I can categorically say she is an asshole. If she is outright refusing, as OP said, then she is in the wrong. She is choosing addiction over her relationship. She’s not just an asshole. She’s a horrible person and her love for OP is genuinely questionable.

You do not get a pass from being an asshole simply because you have an addiction. At first? Sure. But she has been doing it for 5 YEARS and after being talked to about it she’s doing nothing. She no longer gets the umbrella of empathy for her addiction and she should be called out for it. She’s being selfish and putting her own wants over the health of everyone involved.

Which is a relatively minor mechanical difference.

Doesnt matter the instance. They’re all reddit like

Enjoy

So weirdly, one of those is correct and, kinda, half of another?

Source

Hey I can always record you something specific if you want lol

Edit: Too late

I’m glad my dulcet tones can stalk your nightmares for years to come, buddy <3

Oh you misunderstand, my favorite fellow Canadian. He’s using the force to stay in position to breathe it in more deeply. The Dark Side…

Is it? There are plenty of subreddits who have taken downvotes out of their community. Badly, but they have. /r/CanadaPolitics will outright ban you if you ever admit to downvoting something in the community.

The removal of downvotes alone is not remotely sufficient evidence of being “quite different” from Reddit in that regard. Honestly it just reminds me of /r/Conservative and their flair system too. I don’t understand why downvotes are being banished.

They’ve been smoking for 5 years straight with OP openly disapproving of the situation. I’m not seeing the “Yes, you’re the asshole” here. If this was for a brief period then sure. But 5 years is just beyond the pale. Half a decade of someone disapproving of smoking and they haven’t found a single opportunity to quit?

No.

You privately set a limit with not marrying a smoker. You made that stance public years later after she had already quit. She knew about that stance. She begins smoking again. Understandable, addicts will relapse. However, relapsing for 5 years straight? When you know it bothers your partner and ACTIVELY contributes to not just a detriment to their health but yours as well? They haven’t found a single opportunity to quit? Even for a brief period.

They’re the asshole. If this was for a year, nah. Needs more information. But 5 YEARS STRAIGHT? She’s not respecting your boundaries or your health.

Nor I, dearest user… nor I…

Total bro. You are right, everyone does it. Always kinda frustrated me people giving others shit like they’re not doing the exact same.

He never mentioned it again. Was kind of disappointing because I had seen his dick once when he was just strutting naked around the house and, like, one tasty looking dick. Alas, I wouldn’t have been able to live with myself knowing that he wasn’t making a sober decision. Didn’t want to take advantage of him.

Oh god. The day has arrived.

Here you go.

My anxiety issues were a bit high for that at the time, being a virgin. Now? After losing my virginity getting railed by 30+ men in the dark room of a bathhouse? Absolutely.

During. Hit a particularly good spot, made a noise and then the other person made a noise. My hyper repressed roommate who had opened the door to offer pizza and didn’t knock. I told him to fucking knock. Eye contact was made and I just sort of froze into place. They slowly closed the door and left. I had a panic attack and then went into the kitchen to apologize. He was a bit shook and just offered pizza. I ate a piece awkwardly on the couch. We sat in silence for like 10 minutes until I said “I told you to knock” and he said “Will you suck my dick” to which my eyebrows flew off my face. Apparently alcohol was involved before pizza was ordered and “gave him confidence to finally ask” to which I said “And you have asked and done the hard part which means when sober you can ask again, clear headed, and know its exactly what you want if you want. If it is, sure. If it aint, we forget about it.”

And before anyone goes “Yeah sure, that happened”, this is weirdly common amongst gay men who’ve lived in housing with various people from different backgrounds and countries. A lot of people are curious and wanna try. I’ve met a bizarre amount of gay men who’ve all had more or less the same encounter, typically minus the dildo part, and thank god all the ones I’ve taledk to have also said “Hit me up when sober.”

Burying a dildo 9 inches into my ass