The difference is it’s fake the anonymity.

never felt like I needed to post my life for the whole world to see

As he posts a story from his life 🙄

Dude is so oblivious and arrogant. He barely knows her and is already judging, thankfully smart girl saw the signs and dodged a bullet. It’s rare for greentext to have a happy ending.

emotionally well adjusted

No shot anyone who posts “I’m practicing gratitude today” is well adjusted lul

You don’t need to also fake post what others post. Just have an account, you don’t need to ever post on it and if you do post you can keep it visible to friends only. I haven’t posted anything on Facebook for years, but that account is the only way some friends and relatives can reach me (I moved abroad, so phone is not an option).

This, for real. I’m autistic but I’ve learned to mask it by showing normies what they expect to see and it makes things so much easier. Remember, reception matters more than intention.

This is just judgemental and stupid. If you are easily distracted not using a smartphone outside business hours is hugely beneficial.

I use a lumia 550, but REALLY I would prefer an old school phone like the w800i, but a good k750/w800/k800 is rare and expensive at this point and pretty likely to fail. (I have 2g here). So the lumia it is.

Friend of mine bought her first smart phone about a year ago. She just didn’t need any of the functions on a smartphone and was happier with her flip phone: pretty much infinite battery, near indestructible, does communicate just ok.

Only reason she bought a smart phone is to download some group chat clients. Since she broke up with her BF, we additionally had to write her on SMS. So she made it a bit easier for us.

I’ve seen doctors use them as work phone, like a modern pager.

Or an old person. My grandparents have flip phones lol

Or maybe just broke, but then it’s a little odd to by pursuing more than a 2 year degree without a stable living situation.

I only bought a smartphone because I was getting into the HVAC field and I wanted to have access to the Internet to help with diagnostics, if it wasn’t for that job I might still just have an old flip phone lol

Or you wanna get away from the distractions of modern smartphones.

Because phone bad.

A loner autist amish btard is pretty ugly, definitely on the inside, but his mom assures him he’s not ugly on the outside. Mom is also the only girl who ever put her number in his flip phone, and she knew what she was doing.

But you are lying. You are on lemmy.

Yep and somehow, they want you to “prove” you don’t have one.

It’s about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that’s outside of what’s normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don’t want to be alone with someone I don’t really know who is unpredictable. I’m just trying not to get murdered.

I only know two women who use non-standard social apps, and both of them work in NGOs with good reason to not trust corps/government.

Her: “What’s Lemmy?”

Me: “It’s like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011.”

Her: (visibly drying)

Redditor? Forever virgin.

Lemming? Sex machine.

for me it usually one of the three: What’s a lemmy? What is this lemming site? What did you do to Lenny?

That’s true. A lemmy account is our age’s horga’hn.

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In fairness, I’ve got a foldable flippy type phone and the number of conversations it starts is unreal. If I wasn’t happily attached (and had more banter than the average housebrick) I’m sure it’d lead to some good chats and encounters.

As it stands though, it’s just a nice talking point.

e: plus it’s satisfying as fuck ending a call by closing the phone.

Years ago I had one that was spring-loaded so you’d press a little button on the side and it would pop open in one move. I really liked that phone. Don’t remember what brand it was.

Fuck texting like a Neanderthal. Use a modern, and secure app to communicate. WhatsApp as a bottom of the barrel thing (99% of society outside of the US is on it, so it’s the de facto standard) , signal or better if you can.

Same here

Well said

I try to limit how much time I spend on social media

But she needs to check for red flags if she doesn’t want to become another rape/murder statistic.

If someone pulls out a flip phone I’m just going to assume they’re a drug dealer

Anon actually is in complete denial about his autism.

Funny thing is, some places love when people Dont have social media. I have had to go thrugh a lot of background checks for my jobs before and most of the time they are happy to hear that there is no social media for me to say dumb stuff on online.

The obsession with social media is fucked up, in my opinion. All the AV- and IT-gear in my school were my responsibility for almost 20 years, I got nothing but praise from everyone. Keeping everything running smoothly was easy and I enjoyed it.

Then one day our principal added “social media presence” to the list of my duties. I asked what that meant. “Well, posting weekly on Instagram and Facebook so that the community can see what good work we do here!”

I resigned from the AV- and IT-duties at that moment. I have zero interest in touching those platforms and I consider posting pictures of students or their work online as a very bad idea.

The principal was visibly shocked by my reaction but could not deny the resignation of my duties, since everyone else had gotten to change their duty roles yearly. Now I take care of the woodshop class and materials, which is nice.

Two younger teachers took shared charge of the IT-duties. They have no idea how to handle any problems, nothing works anymore and people are pissed off, but now we have pictures on the Internet.

You didn’t miss out, you dodged a bullet.

…he didn’t pretend to like social media

It’s college. Every girl doesn’t need to be treated like a potential marriage.

Life doesn’t need to be serious when you are young. That’s a huge mistake I made.

It’s not that these people actively care about social media or anything, it’s just a regular part of life. I’m like OP here in the sense that I don’t have any active social media attached to my name but I have some token pseudonymous social media accounts for exactly this reason. Being this obstinate about it is legitimately a huge red flag, and imo indicates that you’ve given up even more control of your life to social media, rather than understanding how to use it as a tool for a set of narrowly defined tasks.

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