For the first time in my adult life I’m not at college on Halloween (just graduated) and I’m passing out the candy for my household. I always knew going without a costume on Halloween was lame but now that I’m seeing it from the eyes of an adult passing out candy, I can see it is actually REALLY lame. Do y’all pass out candy to kids not wearing a costume on Halloween?

Edit: The comments here are pretty unanimously on the side of passing out candy no matter what, and I don’t disagree. Trick or treat is a very big thing in my neighborhood, so it has surprised me to see as many kids without costumes as I have. Still, I try to not make assumptions, I’ll just be a chill adult and do the job of passing out the candy either way. I appreciate yall’s input!

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    13 days ago

    If a 45 year old not wearing a costume and strung out on Ketamine says trick or treat at my door, they’re getting candy.

    What am I, the fucking Halloween police? ACAB.

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    Yes. Because for the kids that show up at my door without a costume, candy is probably not in their family budget, at all, ever. I load em up.

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    Yeah, fuck it. I’m gonna razz em tho.

    I’m telling the kids “take two or three!” And when the costume-less ones show up I say “hmm, no costumes? You can only take two or three then.”

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      The only time I went without a costume as a kid was because I lived in a dysfunctional household and I was super stressed and didn’t have enough time or support to plan a costume - so I threw on an oversized coat and went with my friends; some adults tried to give me trouble and refused me candy, and that was a bummer because I felt like I had failed … anyway - I guess my point is that maybe some kids are being lazy or something, but you don’t really know.

      I personally would definitely give kids candy regardless, but I wish people would actually trick-or-treat where I live, it makes me so sad that nobody does.

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        Making an effort and hanging a bad made costume is better than a bought costume. It should be about creativity, not money.

        I’d still give candy to kids. Not teens. I’d give extra candy to kids that made an effort in whatever way.

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          That does assume the kid has the time and resources to hang together a costume even if homemade. I was maybe a preteen when this happened, so that may have played into some adults’ hesitancy to give me candy, but also looking back I just think the people in the neighborhood I was in had bad values. I also had zero time for a costume, I wasn’t planning on trick-or-treating at all, and it was only because my friends were kind enough to invite me anyway.

          But I would give candy to teens, adults, or kids regardless of whether they have a costume or not. :-)

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      Currently with friends and their kids for Halloween and one parent in the group won’t allow their kids to dress up for religious reasons. Some of the other kids in our group kept asking the older one what she’s dressed up as (in her normal clothes) and she finally just yelled out “our savior!” (obviously reacting from a tough spot as the kids who stand out from the rest based on their parents’ decisions). Apart from that it could be for financial reasons.

      In any case I don’t see why people get so stingey with Halloween candy if a kid isn’t dressed up enough. You’re giving it out anyway. Razzing seems fine though and this isn’t intended to criticize you but more just tangential soap boxing.

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    Yeah, there’s any number of reasons a kid might not have a costume. Finances, health, sensory issues, the list goes on.

    Its free candy day, who gives a shit just give out free candy! ❤️

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    Sometimes it’s not the kids’ fault. I’d say most of the time the parents need to be involved in some way with the costume (buying, making, helping to make) and some kids just don’t have present parents so I don’t want to punish them for that.

    Also I really don’t want leftover candy in my house (because I’ll eat it) so…

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    Not being very immersed in pop culture, I just assume they’re dressed as someone from a show I don’t watch.

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    Yes, definitely give everyone treats. Not everyone has the opportunity to dress up for various reasons.

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    If they show up I hand out the candy and I’ve been doing it that way for decades. No telling some kid or teens situation in life and there’s no need in making it harder on them.

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    Is this a thing? I’d feel like I was punishing a kid for having broke parents.

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      I remember it when I was a kid. I also remember some people gave put more or less candy depending on how good your costume was. Felt incredibly judged in public. Hated Halloween for so many reasons.

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    A lot of the kids in my neighborhood are Muslim and it seems the girls aren’t allowed to wear costumes if they are hijabis. I’m not excluding them because of a stupid religious thing.

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    My wife used to get all grumpy with high school kids (and sometimes even adults) trick or treating. I told her, I’m glad to see anyone that still has that spirit and energy. And if they don’t have costumes… They probably can’t afford them. Worst case, they’re doing something better than the trouble they could be up to.

    … But fuck those people that take the whole bowl at houses with no one home.