Wolverine really does look like two Batmen kissing

  • ruckblack@sh.itjust.works
    1377·
    1 year ago

    My ex is an actress. It never bothered me really. She saw it as part of the job and I do too. I’m the one she’s looking for in the audience and taking her home at the end of the show lol.

  • Cold_Brew_Enema@lemmy.world
    627·
    1 year ago

    They are professionals. It’s part of the job. It’d be like being a spouse to a stripper. You know what they are doing, so you should be ok with it.

  • EnderMB@lemmy.world
    34·
    11 months ago

    My wife went to school with someone from a popular TV show a few years back, where she’d be in sex scenes fairly frequently (from what I hear, I watched a few episodes and hated it). She had a long-term boyfriend at the time, and it didn’t take long for him to not be cool with it.

    She also went to school with a musician that had a stab at a solo career. She had some raunchy scenes in a music vid, and that quickly led to her breaking up with her boyfriend.

    Those are my only two frames of reference, but I imagine it’s quite hard to deal with emotionally, even if you know it meant nothing and is just a part of the job.

  • Cosmicomical@kbin.social
    313·
    1 year ago

    Ever wondered why the divorce rate in hollywood is so high? Must not be easy to deal with that shit

    • KrummsHairyBalls@lemmy.ca
      42·
      1 year ago

      Well I doubt they care because they are also acting in a different movie kissing someone else.

      I’m sure the divorce rate is high because they are limited to a small dating pool. The average person, you and I, are not severely limited to other famous people, and divorce rate for normal people like us is extremely high as well.

      • Rodeo@lemmy.ca
        211·
        1 year ago

        Just do what Leo does and date some random teenage Instagram model.

        I doubt those relationships last long or are fulfilling, but I also doubt any celebrity marriage is fulfilling and there’s a lot more baggage involved.

  • The_Vampire@lemmy.world
    231·
    11 months ago

    Let’s be real. A lot of people in the comments are saying “it’s just a job”, but that’s irrelevant. Prostitution and stripping are both jobs, and I guarantee those who work in either have a vastly more difficult time finding people okay with that.

    Is it impossible for the significant other to be okay with it? No. Will it be harder to have a relationship? Definitely.

    • Norgur@kbin.social
      516·
      1 year ago

      Be as secure as you will, if you see your SO in a romance scene in a typical hig h profile movie with all the right camera angles and music and all… it’s bound to do at least something to you, right?

      • kofe@lemmy.ml
        81·
        1 year ago

        Yeah, and that something can be communicated. But at the end of the day it’s their job. I follow a therapist on YouTube that talks about his wife’s modeling career on occasion and he never really cared. He saw the work that goes into it and knows it’s just that - work. I think on the rare occasions it did bring up some feelings of jealousy he communicated the insecurity and got reassurance from her. That obviously worked well enough that they’ve been married a couple decades.

        On the work end, keep in mind how many times they have to shoot scenes/photos and how extremely unromantic/inauthentic it is.

      • SzethFriendOfNimi@lemmy.world
        107·
        1 year ago

        Not really. Especially when you know what goes into filming them. From modesty underwear to lighting to 30 people around you just doing their thing for the production.

        As a spouse of an actor you’d think you know just how “fake” the music and emotional impact is.

      • Lmaydev@programming.dev
        2926·
        1 year ago

        No that’s the point. If you are not insecure and trust your partner then you know it’s just acting.

        • Norgur@kbin.social
          384·
          1 year ago

          I’m not suggesting that they might assume any of the acted scene had real feelings behind it. Yet still, visually seeing your SO seemingly doing intimate stuff will make you feel something. You might not be jealous or anything, yet still. That has nothing to do with insecurity. You can feel awkward without jealousy, can’t you?

          • kadotux@sopuli.xyz
            16·
            1 year ago

            As a former polyamoric person, here’s how I (still) think of it: You can’t control your feelings (they are merely physical reactions to situations) but you can control how you deal with them. Or how you act on them.

            So in a sense, in my opinion, you’re both correct.

            • Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works
              7·
              1 year ago

              So in a sense, in my opinion, you’re both correct.

              And that right there is the kind of attitude that gets you into polyamoric situations.

          • Lmaydev@programming.dev
            109·
            1 year ago

            There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars. It’s just their work at the end of the day.

            I’m sure plenty of people don’t really feel anything about it.

            • zacher_glachl@lemmy.world
              12·
              1 year ago

              There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars.

              From a purely logical standpoint, given the number of strippers and porn stars out there, that statement must be true. It’s not quite something I can wrap my head around though.

            • buffaloboobs@lemmy.world
              29·
              1 year ago

              there are also people who genuinely feel happy for their SOs in these situations. Compersion is real and fucking wonderful. not enough people know 'bout it.

        • theneverfox@pawb.socialEnglish
          1·
          11 months ago

          I mean, it comes down to jealousy, right? And that’s an emotion… You can’t really control your emotions

          I think it’s more a matter of “is this a deal breaker”. Some people just might avoid those movies, some people might need to see it and get reassurance, some people can’t handle it at all. And some people just aren’t bothered - there’s people who are fine with their partner dating other people so long as they come home at the end of the night

            • theneverfox@pawb.socialEnglish
              1·
              11 months ago

              You can control your reaction to your emotions, and you can change yourself.

              You can’t control your emotions themselves though, just the before and after

        • Norgur@kbin.social
          4·
          1 year ago

          That’s definetly one of the possibilities. I never had a relationship with a movie star who did such scenes, so I wouldn’t know.

  • PorkRollWobbly@lemmy.ml
    12·
    11 months ago

    It really depends on the actor. I think we can all agree that not every actor has the same emotional maturity and therefore will not all react the same to it. For example, take a look at what Jonah Hill expects from his partners versus Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively seeming to be a healthy couple while both have had some raunchy scenes in movies featuring other people.