I personally don’t think it matters much at all, except in channels that specifically identify that way. However, I am male, hetero, cis, so its possible I’m just clueless.
That Lemmy hasn’t devolved into an incel freak show is a barely functional alliance between the left lean and heavy moderation against the fact that Lemmy skews into Extra Opinionated Redditors (aka nerdy, lonely men)
When some poor lady tried to get a TwoX going here the comment sections were always a sausage fest of attempting to mansplain away women’s personal experiences and concerns and that’s really all you need to know about things.
Not a lot as far as I can tell?
Zero. Everyone is anonymous. So who cares.
The shills and bots from Hexbear love using it as a wedge to divide people, so I’d say it’s very important to them
I’m a lady and haven’t had any trouble here. The only place I really notice how ridiculously male - skewed Lemmy is, is on the NSFW. That is definitely all “male gaze” stuff, with the occasional actual lesbian also posting stuff guys like. Even the posts OF men are FOR men, everything posted with some assumption only men are looking at the posts.
The other communities just aren’t so gendered, I don’t notice much whether someone seems to be one or the other, it isn’t relevant to cocktails or cooking or gardening or science fiction.
The only place I really notice how ridiculously male - skewed Lemmy is, is on the NSFW. That is definitely all “male gaze” stuff, with the occasional actual lesbian also posting stuff guys like. Even the posts OF men are FOR men, everything posted with some assumption only men are looking at the posts.
That sounds like a you problem. Everyone like to look at sexy ladies.
Men 🙄 /g
on the internet everyone is just a wall of text to me. (pronouns: it/its)
A wall of text characterized by a name and sometimes a profile picture.
You should definitively watch Everybody Hates Chris, by the way.
Not much at all.
How would people even know other peoples gender?
There are people who share their pronouns/gender, but they are pretty rare
Ooooh, I’m rare! Colour me capercaillie.
capercaillie
I learned a new word!
Define “rare” /s
Why not make a new account with a femme sounding username and see? Don’t pretend you need help with a bra or anything, just interact with lemmy while “labeled” a woman.
I have a more masculine username and a more feminine username (both seem like spins on given names, think UrArthUr and Bekky), and there is a difference in how I’m perceived, or at least how people respond to me. It’s not huge, and I’m afab irl, so I’m also not surprised- I don’t think I’ve ever been somewhere where people can freely interact and it had no effect (or at least not since I grew tits).
I couldn’t understand your last sentence, could you please explain it? /lh
There’s always a difference in how men and women are treated. It’s not always a horrible evil sexist thing, but people pick up on cues from tone and username and react to that.
Being online is nice, because the default assumption is that you’re a man, so unless you have a super femme username or are talking about something femme-coded like gardening or knitting, people tend not to treat you like a woman. “Treating you like a woman” basically means being dismissive of your experience or knowledge or tone policing (if I make a rude joke under a femme username, people downvote the hell out of it unless it’s about a very safe target- that’s how minor the difference is, to be clear). I’m also probably an egg, so my perception of not being treated like a woman as nice might be skewed.
Do people look at the usernames before replying to a message or post?
I may do it if the username is spelled with emojis (color is really noticable when everything around it is plain text) or has a stupid take.
I’m really happy my Lemmy app (Thunder) has an option to not show display names. I only see normal usernames and none of that KOLONAK bullshit.
Not at all! What matters is the person and what they have to say. If it’s good content I’ll upvote and chime in! 😃
Beneath each woman is a man, and beneath him is a teenage boy, and beneath him is a bot. After that, it’s bots all the way down.
I just skip the in-between stages — I’m a botnet pretending to be a woman
Depends on context, as always. A user sharing a story on social interaction, gender may be quite important to how they experienced it and how others perceive it. I.e., a post the other day asking about worst dates and the average worst date for men was a woman on coke or a no show. The average worst date for women was about getting sexually assaulted or raped.
Men are victims of those things too and can face different repercussions when they try to pursue help. Understanding their experiences within the context of them being men is also important.
Stripping gender from these stories only obfuscates some of the problems.
Doesn’t matter at all. A person is a person.
A person’s a person no matter how small
I know you’re probably a kind person, but imo, this kind of reductionistism is incompatible with being pro-trans-rights.
In what way am I reducing them?
Not the person you’re replying to but it kinda feels like the “oh I don’t see color” comment when somebody brings up racism. To me, it feels… dismissive? I dunno. I don’t think what you said is a problem or anything, it just… feels like it has bad connotations to me. Take this with a grain of salt, what I understand and interpret can be very different from what you say, which can also differ from what you mean.
Is it? Then what is the gender of the person you’re replying? Surely if it was important you would need to know it before replying. The fact that you can reply someone without knowing their gender is proof that it doesn’t matter here.
If gender didn’t mattered IRL, trans people would be seen in the same light of someone who likes wearing black, or is unhappy with the way their nose looks to the point of doing a surgery about it. Trans people suffer because society puts a lot of importance in gender, therefore wanting to dress clothes from a different gender, or having a body that looks a different gender are “radical” ideas that offend simple-minded people.
and some of us are barely people
I swear there’s at least one wasp who posts pro-wasp propaganda
Wait
White Anglo-Saxon Protestants are people!?
I’m a raccoon
I feel like a ‘raccoon’ that self-identifies as a ‘ramblingpanda’ on lemmy should be given…a warm welcome!
The trash is in the kitchen, the bamboo is out back, the bourbon is in the den, and the game starts in 5.
That’s a party of my taste 💖
Everyone is a complete person. Don’t belittle yourself like that.
I’m a barley person. I love beer.
I’m the old Norm. I want normal beer.
I do think we all try to keep that spirit around here.
No spirits! Only people.
Lemmy is definitely a more male space than I think even reddit was, and that does affect the tone of certain conversations. It really is a whiplash coming here from Mastodon sometimes and seeing a very different vibe.
Even the women are men here /s
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The /s at the end is used to indicate sarcasm. With that information, I would rate it joke/10
Identity in general doesn’t matter much on forums (as opposed to microblogs, like Twitter or Mastodon). Forums are focused on topics rather than people, and what is said is generally more important than who says it.
And that’s why I’m here. People centric media stresses me.
Tell that to all the super users.
What is a superuser in Lemmy? What can it do that’s so special? I don’t think I’ve ever encountered one.
Same as it was on reddit, but slightly more self-righteous about it.