Be it a personality quirk, something they’re wearing, or just the way they look. What makes them instantly hot?

  • HollowV@lemmy.world
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    The ability to not give a fuck about what others think about them, showing people close to them that they care about them and tries to help out anyway that they can, showing appreciation when someone does something for them.

    I see these qualities in my (guy) friend which is why I had a crush on him. Also he kinda looks like Leon Kennedy sooo…👀

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        I told him that I liked him more than a friend a couple months ago. Ended in a friend-zone 💀 . We both agreed that it’s best for us to be just friends because of timing. He works a lot and does school full time, so he’s not gonna be able to prioritize me. I (still) find him attractive, but he helped me dodge a bullet in saving me from another heartbreak.

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    Throwing themselves at me sexually. If I’m not going to have to make a lot of effort for it the person gets way more attractive to me, even if they’re not someone I’d typically go for. Conversely I’ve lost interest in a lot of very attractive women when they made it clear they were playing hard to get or just weren’t very sexual in general.

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    It is confidence. It is always always always confidence. Close the thread there’s your answer for everything.

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      But then you run into the dunning kruger effect. Way too many assholes and idiots with obscene amounts of it

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    Unapologetic intellectual curiosity! I absolutely love being around people who love learning new things and who get excited to find out more when they discover a new topic.
    It’s one of the first qualities that really stood out when I first met my husband - in a University lecture with 1000 people, he just nonchalantly sat down in the frontmost row because that’s where he could hear the professor the best and ask questions. No shyness or awkwardness about it, which I found incredibly inspiring for some reason! I usually hid in one of the back rows because I was massively overthinking everything and afraid that the professor might call me out when he sees me not paying attention.

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    I’m attracted to women with a more traditionally masculine personality or presentation. The helpers/protectors. Or non-binary. Bonus points if their whole Look is to deliberately intimidate strangers.

    TL;DR image basically this but in all black.

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      Single straight man that works in child care. Let me tell you, single mom’s treat compassion like catnip. I keep them as far away from me outside of the school environment because me simply enjoying my job which naturally involves compassion is intoxicating to them.

      Hard pass for me dating a single mom but if you are having a hard time as a straight single man dating (only perspective I can give advice on) is to be genuine and compassionate. Instant attraction for 99% of women looking for partners.

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        Ive become a bit of a cynic in this area and I think the women seeing your passion for child care and being a nice guy… They know they can wrap you around their fingers and get a lot of benefit from you.

        Nice guys like yourself need to be very careful around todays women.

        • El_Scapacabra@lemmy.zip
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          Toxic people mistake kindness for weakness and you just told on yourself, assuming everyone thinks the way you do.

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            Amazing analys doctor, but I think you may be seeing yourself in this rather than me…

            Im not very toxic, just very honest about what I see. Even when its unpopular.

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                  You told a guy who does childcare that women know they can wrap him round their finger, which iabsolutely is mistaking kindness for weakness, a very negative way of thinking, which is the toxic bit.

                  You don’t see at as toxic, but others do and you know it’s unpopular but you do it anyway, which is the no filter bit.

                  Unapologetic and unwilling to reconsider your position, you then start insulting people and being snarky, which is both toxic and lacking a filter.

                  I won’t be surprised if you double down and go more abusive and dismissive in response to what I’ve said because you clearly see no intrinsic merit whatsoever in kindness, so why would you hold back from the nastiest you could be?

                  Some of us learned social lessons at school (alongside academic content). Trump did neither, and thinks that playground bullying is strength. Be less Trumpy.

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    3 days ago

    Bravery. My wife she’s a revolutionary. She was on the street when they kicked out the dictator and they were shooting real bullets. I admire her

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    3 days ago

    I’m going to be so shallow as to claim that if they look attractive, I find that instantly hot.

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    Understanding and compassion. Kindness. I’ve been with enough women in my time to be able to definitively say that the HOTTEST woman in the universe yet a total bitch would not be able to hold a candle to a homely kind hearted gal.