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    I always find it peculiar and proof of self-hatred that humans are so averse and judgemental about reveling in our sexuality.

    It’s a major part of who we all are, whether we choose to deny that or not. Cultures and world religions always run by monied interests would prefer we spend our time miserable collecting more for their dragon hoard piles as they live in hyper-decadent debauchery, and most of us have been too fucked in the head with sexual and “don’t be laaaazy” shame to be fixable, but humanity would have been so much happier if we spent less time sacrificing ourselves to the God of economic metastasis and more time fucking, especially in an age of birth control.

    We might not even have put ourselves on the express lane to self-extinction we’re currently careening down in search of more treasure for the masters.

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      This isn’t coming from the self, our culture is extremely anti human, anti sexuality (the major cause of human)

      Discussion of sexuality is grounds for erasure in most spheres of society. When sexuality is permitted to be depicted, it is almost always in a negative condemning light similar to how’s drugs are discussed.

      The only valid and acceptable use of sexuality is when its vague reminder is used to sell us garbage like beer and trucks or whatever.

      Even the majority of art and artist pretend sexuality is not part of art, unless it’s rape.

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        I don’t know what culture you live in, but I think your description of what’s embraced by modern culture is at odds with what we see on TV, on Netflix, on YouTube, in magazines, in books, talked about by people everyday.

        What is it specifically that you wish you could find that’s not available, that you feel ought to be appropriate but isn’t, somehow? I’m struggling to figure this one out.

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      I think the issue is, when reveling in your sexuality, everyone involved must consent. It’s hard to say whether posting pics of you in revealing clothes is consent for old men to ogle or not. I’d say if you post it publicly, then it should be fine for said old men to respectfully ogle. But if said old men decide to comment something like, “would love to squirtle on those jigglypuffs” on the revealing image, we’re suddenly entering nonconsensual territory. So there’s a fine line and it’s easy to cross. Simply loving looking at boobs on the internet is fine; many women enjoy being admired. But if you take it any further, that’s when problems arise. Enjoy your sexuality responsibility, my friends. 💕

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        If you don’t want people spreading your images, wanking to your images, making crude comment about your images, oogling your images, etc etc. And I don’t mean just nudes, I mean any picture you post…

        Then don’t post them online.

        because once they hit the internet, in any capacity, you’ve lost all control of them, forever. They will still be there to be discovered when you are lying in a nursing home at 104 years old, Your descendants so far removed that they dont even know your name will still be at risk of stumbling upon them. People on the other side of the planet might use it in advertising or virtual sex dolls without you ever knowing.

        You might not like it, you might not want it, you might not consent to it, but its still going to happen.

        And if you want it to not happen, don’t post things online. Because not posting is the only control you’ll ever be able to exert over them.

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          Whatever you say, really don’t care. I don’t need some rando to tell me shit I already know.

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        Put something on a public platform = accept that people will look at it. Allow for people to comment on it and you invite these comments. If someone wants to post pictures and not get comments on them, they can post them to a platform that doesn’t allow comments.

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          That’s right! Exactly.

          For instance, this is public, and if a bunch of random weirdos came in here and started saying things like “whoa, who let the monkey out of his cage?” or “I’m about to put something on his public platform = 1,000 unsolicited dicks,” there’s absolutely nothing you, or I, can do about that—and it would be wrong to do anything, of course!

          You’re cool, man, you get it.

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        If you show your tits to the internet on an open platform anyone can leave comments on, you automatically consent to people looking at your tits and commenting on them.

        Until that platform specifically restricts the types of comments you don’t like, all you can do is suck it up, buttercup.

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          So do you get off on being an ass or is it just something that naturally happens?

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            If someone climbs on a soapbox to spout racist shit, you wouldn’t have any problem with random people heckling them.

            It’s the same with showing your tits online.

            If you don’t want to attract creepy comments, don’t do stuff that attracts creepy people.

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      Sex is free, fun, and everyone can do it. We can’t have that in capitalism, why would people work for money?

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    Men liking pictures of beautiful women is not weird. I think it’s weirder that our economic system incentivizes selling empty sexuality and even emptier engagement from consumers of it.

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    Let people like what they like, whether it’s looking at girls online, cosplay, sports, or being an insufferable cunt on social media.

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    Guess I’m the only one who read her post and thought the wives were the ones following the young Women.

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    I’m not an old dude, but I mean these women need that crowd to make money. It’s weird calling them creeps but at the same time they are posting nearly nude photos of themselves publicly on social media. Who do they think is following that content? Physicists at CERN calculating the new gravitation force off of your oversized diaper butt BBL? medical doctors determining the tolerance a 115lb woman with 1000cc of silicone can tolerate? Get real, you’re posting your tits because you know exactly those types of dudes will follow and you can either trick them into giving you money for feet pics or buying you a weekend in Dubai.

    These 22 year old “model influencers” will be begging for these old dudes to pay them attention when they hit the wall in 5 years.

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          That “hit the wall” stuff is always hilariously transparent. It’s a self-soothe. “She won’t be worth it in a few years anyway so you’re not missing out.”

          I’m 38 and the wall where I stop getting unwanted attention sure never seems to come. Which is disappointing. I’m really looking forward to my crone era.

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            So the moral of the story is that boobies are good even after they turn 27?

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            I have written this before, but I don’t think it actually stops. I do not think it’s even about looks really. Or at least I’m over 50 and still getting catcalled on my way to work. Fully expect to be 90 and have some kid yell “Lookin’ spry, grandma!” at me from a moving car.

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            Have you started collecting toadstool and eye of newt? How is your mad cackle coming along? Are you behind on setting up your 401crone?

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            Your comment very much reminds me of an episode of 30 Rock in which Liz Lemon starts dressing like an old crone and acting crazy on the subway to secure a place to sit.

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            The ones using the wall thing can’t even tell how old a woman is anyways. I got told I’ll hit the wall once I reach 26 and then I will have regrets. I was already well into my 30s at that time.

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          Is an incel someone who doesn’t white knight for women who couldn’t care less about their own existence? It’s gotten to the point where incel just means “a guy who believes men and women should be equal”. Yeah, I was exaggerating when I was saying 27 but there are tons of women online regretting not taking relationships more seriously when they were in their 30’s.

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            It’s gotten to the point where incel just means “a guy who believes men and women should be equal”.

            No, that’s not even remotely true, and it’s not what your previous comment was saying either.

            Incels are essentially misogynists with a sexual fixation. Like classical misogynists tend to be more occupied with women having jobs or holding positions of power, while incels tend to be more upset about women’s sexual habits, but both are preoccupied with hating on women they deem to be misbehaving.

            I think the part of your previous comment that gave the most ‘incel vibes’ was the bit about women begging for attention after ‘hitting the wall’ in their 20s. Maybe you intended it as a comment on women who regretted not taking relationships more seriously in their 30s, but it came off as a sort of fantasy where the women who transgressed your model of how ladies should act get their just desserts.

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            If men only date women below 30 (or 27 apparently??) for their youthful appearance, what incentive do those women have to take dating seriously? Those men won’t stay anyway. This is the main contradiction in incel rhetoric. If you don’t like to look at women past 30, women shouldn’t date you “seriously “ while in their 20s.

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            Lingua franca dude. I’ve never heard “hit the wall” used outside the man-o-sphere. Maybe not exclusively incel, but incel adjacent at least.

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            It’s become a generic insult like re*d or faot was. Or still is for some people. Probably the same crowd. Saying that creepy old dudes are generally mainly interested in younger women and would lose interest as they get older is kinda the point of why they’re creepy old dudes. Not an incel thing to say, just how creepy old dudes work.

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        I will say that by 27 creepy old men did stop yelling their attraction at me as I walked down the street, which was nice

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      I can’t find where she called them creeps but I think her issue is that they are married.

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      You may not be an old dude, but it sure seems like you already hit the wall.

      Friend of mine’s father, who was seventy at the time, got hit on by an older lady at the grocery store.

      Lamenting that he didn’t follow it up with her, “she was eighty, but a young eighty, if you know what I mean”

      Wall? Gtfo, dumbass

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        I think you may have misunderstood.

        If you’re a 22yo “influencer” and your target market is people who follow 22yo influencers then it will be difficult to generate engagement when you’re 27.

        That doesn’t seem that controversial to me, and I don’t see how octogenarians getting laid at the supermarket is relevant?

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      If I were to do that, I’d probably do it for the money. I would get unfaithful followers (hard to pinpoint who because open relationships and other types of relationships exist, but statistically, there would be), and that wouldn’t make it any less uncomfortable. I personally hate unfaithful/dishonest partners.

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        I think the concept of sexual cheating is obsolete and malignant psychological evolutionary flotsam that should be stamped out. That those who wish to reinforce its social presence should be bullied and ostracized for it.

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          I disagree. Violence is not the answer, and especially not against people that are living in a way that doesn’t hurt others. If a couple (or polycule) wants to be sexually exclusive, they have the right to do so, and they do not hurt others because it’s not a social imposition for everyone.

          Edit: I mean, I understand questioning why we choose it, “deconstructing”, as we now call it, but after that, I think it’s an intimate matter.

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            Yes, I only applied as much force and violence as the normative consensus. I mean… not even close since they used to stone adulterers to death so.

            I think claims in favour of sexual exclusivity enforcement need to be taken skepticism at minimum but ideally string opposition.

            Also need to avoid mote and bailey arguments about this.

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          It depends. Some relationships are open to pornography, others aren’t. Some are open to sexual intercourse outside their people, but others aren’t. It’s about consent and agreeing to live in a way that all needs are met.

          That’s why I said it’s hard to know who is betraying their partner and who isn’t, because maybe a man or woman or whoever following an erotic/pornographic content creator is not outside what their partner(s) expect, or maybe they are.

          Anyway, I do not like people breaking their “contracts” instead of talking them out.

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        The post wasn’t about ordinary women going through their lives in healthy ways. It was about young women influencers and the old men who follow them. The reason why is obvious.

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    I don’t follow any of them yet they still flood my instagram „search“ tab.

    Not that I complain.

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      I’m 50 and get posts from OnlyFans accounts and advertising for kegels exercises, mixed in with woodworking videos. I blame all the other men out there. No wonder I don’t use social media much anymore. I just want to see my friend’s and family’s pics/vids.

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      Do you get constant targeted ads for devices to keep leaves out of your gutters? All I seem to get are those, belts and fat men t-shirt ads.

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          I have no gutters and I’m a skinny dude with no ass. Better targeted ads would be roof rakes, pants with a <30 waist and suspenders.

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        Yes belly old man T-shirts are the worst as I’m working hard on NOT having a belly and this like like saying „fuck you you gonna get it regardless, that’s what algorithm already knows“

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    I don’t really see how wives following a bunch of young women is weird, they often socialize quite a bit with each other.